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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Dat1payne on 2024-01-21 15:15:56+00:00.
AITA for being upset my husband always assumes I hurt my baby?
I was washing my 21 month old's hands. I sent her down to go play and she immediately tripped and fell. My husband heard her fall jumps up and angrily yells at me "did you drop her Dude?!?". I tell him of course not and to shut the fuck up because every time she is clumsy he assumes I did something to hurt her. Which to me is ridiculous. I pick up my toddler and we go into the bedroom to play. He follows me into the bedroom and starts telling me about why it was a reasonable assumption and how it is my fault if she trips when I'm watching her. I tell him that is unreasonable, she is a toddler and they are not coordinated yet, I can't control her every move. He asks why I'm mad and I start explaining that a reasonable response to her falling would be "is she okay" not assuming your wife did something to hurt your toddler. He cuts me off mid sentence and says "please stop talking to me" which makes me more mad. I gather her and my stuff and we leave to the living room. He asks why I am leaving the room and I told him why would I want to be in a room with a man who asked me to not talk. He says "I didn't say for you to not talk, I asked you to stop talking to me. It's different." At this point I'm fuming. My husband assumes the worst about me every time and is saying it's my fault my toddler occasionally trips on herself. And then acts like I'm unreasonable for being mad and when I try to express that anger by explaining why that is unreasonable, he acts like he is some calm guy and asks me to stop talking to him. The rest of the night he acts like nothing happened and said I am an AH for not wanting to cuddle and hang out with him. AMITA for getting mad and telling him to shut the fuck up or is he the AH for asking me if I dropped her and then not letting me explain why I was mad?