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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/SlovakDjokovic on 2024-01-21 19:00:44+00:00.
I'm a lurker on the reddit but I've seen posts from this sub on insta and have come to understand the demographic is mostly young people which is why I'm here. I want to understand how much this will affect my daughter from a youngin pov but also older people.
I have a 14 year old daughter with my ex girlfriend. We have split custody but her primary residence is with her mum since we live in separate cities (just an hour). My wife and I have our own little girls who are 7 years old and 10 months and a son who's 4 (I swear I'm done lol). After long discussions and preparations with our finances we decided we wanted our daughter to go to private school. As soon as my bm heard she went ballistic because she's been wanting my eldest daughter to go to private school since forever and my daughter has also been asking to go. It's not that I don't want her to more than I know I can't afford that burden. It's easier with my wife because we both work and have good jobs but my ex works at a salon so most of it will be coming out of my pocket and that's just not sustainable without giving up a lot of comforts and changing our lifestyle more than preferred.
My bm is trashing me over it and my daughter has been airing me since I told her I couldn't afford it. I don't even know what to do anymore. AITA?
BM can't afford it. This isn't an assumption. This is something I know because I know their finances and often help her out. She knows she can't pay half. We spoken about it.