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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Independent-Letter64 on 2024-01-22 11:29:01+00:00.
Hi there my name is Victoria (not my real name) and im 24. I just had a baby and shes 4 months old. I recently moved out of my apartment that i initially got with my ex because it was to expensive to pay on my own. For a little backstory my ex who is the father of my child moved out a year ago and we broke up 5 months into my pregnancy, he is 30. We were together for 5 years, it wasnt a perfect relationship and we had our arguments. One day he decided to tell me while i was admitted into the hospital due to a health condition that he was moving out in 2 weeks. Never gave me a heads up or anything. The lease wasnt broken because it was to expensive to do that so he left with his name still on it. We had a one bedroom apartment so i really couldn’t get a roommate either. We still were together for the next 7 months and i was on birth control for years but it failed me this one time. We didnt really talk much during my pregnancy, he didnt show up for the birth of our daughter. He did visit us in the hospital after she was born. We were doing great until my lease was up and we both knew i couldnt afford rent since im not working because im attending school. Im on public assistance and receiving financial aid but that wasnt enough. I have no family or friends that can help out. He knew i was struggling but never offered to help out. He has a house, i never asked him to help me because i was scared he was going to say no. I did speak to him and he reluctantly took me and his daughter in. To make things clear i told him i would take the couch and not sleep with him in his bed. Getting back with him is not my goal or plan just to make things clear. He makes it so obvious that he doesnt want us here and he even told me that on his days off he wants me and his daughter out of the house until 10pm. AITA if i convince or “manipulate” as he puts it, for letting me stay at his house on his days off? I have a 4 month old baby i cant be walking around with her in the cold. That would disrupt her schedule. Also in the beginning he was sending me links to a homeless shelter. I have to endure him for the time being i don’t feel comfortable with this situation but i have no other choice, he’s an ex for a reason. You guys have no idea how much i sacrificed and lost over the years just to be with him and this is the treatment i get. I met him when he had nothing besides a car and he was living in crappy dusty room only for him to screw me over, i end up homeless and he ends up with his own apartment. In the end i acknowldge that it was my fault for ever dating a guy like him and sticking with him through out the years and i take this whole situation as a lesson learned and it gives me even more reason not to get back with him and to put him on child support. So is he the asshole or am i?