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Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/liliilyla on 2024-01-22 12:10:13+00:00.


So basically, I'm under 18 and live with my single mom. She's been hurt in the past by men and I understand that she wants me to be safe, but I really don't understand her rules in the house.

I got a phone later than people at my age, which is understandable, but when I text to someone or take photos of myself on Snapchat (I just save those photos in memories, I have no one added in my snap), she glares at me like I'm doing some sort of unwanted things.

Day before yesterday, I asked her if I could go hang out with my friends, she said I could go if she come with me too. me and my friends wanted to watch a movie without anyone's watch, so I told her to not come. After a long time of talking, she put a curfew to 6 pm. I was going out at 3 pm, so I thought it would be okay.

So, we went out with my friends and I got a call from my mom about at 5.25 pm telling me why am I so late. I left the movie theater and told her that my curfew is at 6 and I had 35 minutes for myself. The are was quite noisy because of the crowd and the teasers playing, she said that she was behind me at the bar I was in.

I told her I was at the movie theater, but she insisted on that I was in a bar and she was watching me. I told her I was on my way back home and hung up, told my friends about the situation and why I needed to go, one of my friends told me I could stay at her house for the night. I kindly refused and went back home.

When I entered, she asked me why I was so late AGAIN (?) and I checked told her that i still hadn't passed my curfew (it was about 5.50 pm or so) which she refused, telling me my curfew is at 5 pm.

she took my phone by force and went through it like she always did unexpectedly. after seeing me sending a heart as a thank you my male teacher, she started yelling and questioning me if I was being a w..... while she was thinking I was studying to become a nurse (I have blood phobia).

I lost it. for the first time in my whole life, I yelled at my mother, telling she was trying to gaslight me to things never existed and forced me to things I've never wanted.

things happened that I don't wanna tell here (I can say that I've got a split lip so you can imagine what happened), but I'm grounded for a week without eating dinners and away from technology. I managed to find my phone while she is doing groceries, so I can ask if I'm the wrong one or not.

I think I might've a bit overreacted for yelling at her but I think the punishment I got is way worse than what I did. AITA?

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