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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Mos_Steff on 2024-01-22 15:11:53+00:00.
So I(31f) brought up a "funny" story to my friend Alice(29f) last week and she's still pretty pissed. 10 years ago we lived together in a new city and I had a boyfriend almost immediately moving there probably because I didn't know anyone and felt homesick. Funny thing is I have come out as lesbian in the meantime and realized I only dated men when I was young because it was easy and I guess liked the attention.
A little history, we met because my much older boyfriend in high school ditched me at prom and came to the after party with her while casually saying he was done with me(he was 22, I was 17 and Alice was 15! Cue Law and Order theme song). Anyways I was young and stupid so instead of blaming him I blamed her(I know). I was horribly mean to her and she started to join our friend group so I saw her all the time. One day there was a group beach day but he ended up doing the same thing to her. Bringing another minor around and telling her he was just done with her. I let her cry to me and we both realized this guy was a creep and joined forces to take him down. Our relationship was a strange one but we realized we had a ton in common and actually really enjoyed hanging out and ended up becoming very close friends.
A few years later she told me she was moving to a new exciting city and needed a roommate and since I had family issues and wasn't going to college I decided to impulsively move there with like $800 lol. I definitely glorified it in my head and felt pretty lonely once living there so I went to an party and met a man named Devon(21m). I thought he was really cool because he worked at a dispensary and at that time it wasn't commonly legal anywhere so tons of free marijuana. But after about two months I noticed he was extremely distant and was constantly cancelling plans and on the flip side Alice was randomly starting arguments with me all the time and suddenly always had tons of weed(weird because she was broke all the time).
One day she was on her phone whispering and then immediately went into the shower so while it was still unlocked I creeped through her phone. I read the texts between her and Devon and he said things like "you're so much hotter and I love our soft core love affair(whatever that means). I never told her I snooped though and pretended that I just wasn't interested in him anymore and broke things off.
Things have changed a lot in 10 years, she is now married and I am super gay. We have been talking a lot on the phone lately after a tragedy happened in my immediate family and she has been wonderful and supportive and I look forward to our hours long phone calls. However I might of effed up. Last week we were talking about how insane we both were when we lived together and I brought up how I snooped through her phone and asked her what the fuck is a "soft core love affair" haha. I was saying it in a very light hearted way and clearly hold no animosity but she was MAD!! She hasn't called me this week so AITA?