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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/PhotoPractical9231 on 2024-01-22 17:17:27+00:00.
My (20M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been dating for the past two years, and 2 months ago we welcomed a beautiful baby boy into our lives. Things have been kind of hectic, but we’ve been managing. And yes, before you say anything I realise that we’re very young to have a kid, but we’re in love with each other and we’re both very mature for our age so we believe we’re ready to start our family. My girlfriend chose not to get an abortion for religious reasons and we have financial support from my parents so we don’t have to worry about money.
I have been best friends with this girl (19F) for around a decade. She’s kind, funny, pretty, but we practically grew up together so I’ve only ever seen her as like a sibling. She has supported me through thick and thin and we have been there for each other during our hardest times. Around three weeks after my son was born, her 13 year old sister tragically died. She was absolutely heartbroken and was struggling to cope with the loss. Her sister was the only person in her family she had a good relationship with my friend blamed herself for not being there for her. She has a distant relationship with her mother, her friends from school now live very far away, and she’s quite introverted so she hasn’t made a lot of new close friends, so I’m pretty much the only support she has. I went to the funeral with her back in our hometown, I bring her her favourite food to make sure she eats something, I message her everyday to see if she’s doing well. She’s battled with depression before and I’m terrified of losing her too. I hang out with her a couple of times a week, going on walks, watching movies together, reading at the library, baking together, painting with her, playing video games, going on picnics etc, all the activities she used to love doing with her sister. We reminisce about all the fun memories we had with her sister, and it’s never become anything more than platonic.
Apart from when I’m with my friend, in class, doing my assignments/studying, or at work, I spend the rest of my time supporting my family, helping with taking care of the chores around the house, bottle-feeding and bathing my son, etc. But recently I’ve been getting into arguments with my girlfriend. She’s been suspicious of me spending “all my time” with my friend, knowing full well that I’m simply supporting her. In the first month after our son’s birth I did everything I possibly could to make motherhood easier for her, and I still would have if it wasn’t for someone I love and care about deeply going through a hard time. I have been completely honest to my girlfriend about helping my friend, yet she started accusing me of “neglecting” her and our son and saying that I only cared about my friend because I had a crush on her. I empathise and understand that she’s having a stressful time adjusting to parenthood after an unplanned pregnancy, but I think I should be allowed to support my best friend with her grief. AITA