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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Throwaway175081190 on 2024-01-23 02:41:33+00:00.
My (33M) girlfriend (28F) and I have a trip scheduled in 3 days; we are going to my brother’s wedding in Portugal (the birth place of his fiancé). She absolutely hates flying, always has, but does it if there’s no alternative.
Well, last night we were looking for a movie to watch and settled on Society of the Snow on Netflix. It’s a new movie based on the true story of the Andes survivors, and it has a very horrific plane crash scene in the first 10 minutes. My girlfriend was on the verge of an anxiety attack and it took me awhile to calm her down. When she pulled herself together, she said she won’t be able to fly anymore and won’t come to the wedding with me. I asked her if she was serious; I bought her ticket besides mine, and they’re non refundable. Money aside, my family and I want her there. I also can’t imagine our future lives if she is serious about never flying anywhere.
So I told her all that. I also told her she can do therapy in the future to overcome this, and I can help her with that if she wants, but for now she needs to find a way to temporarily put her fears on hold and go on this trip as we planned. She got upset and said I was pressuring her, mentioning the money loss and telling she had to come. She also saw as an ultimatum when I said our future together could be impacted, though that was not my intention at all, I was just hypothetically mentioning the difficulties this could bring to our lives.
Am I really TA for insisting she comes to the wedding?