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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Organic-Sandwich-365 on 2024-01-23 06:56:51+00:00.
To get this straight, my girlfriend has a FEMALE friend who has an Ex, we'll call Hill Cam, well my GF has known Cam for less time than me and recently they hangout together just the two of them. I told her I'm not comfortable with it but fine as I don't wanna be controlling and I thought they'd just catch up over coffee, they ended up going on a boat ride together, swimming, sitting on the beach talking for hours and then the kicker she said she wanted to go back to his house to see a movie. which I then AGAIN mentioned I'm not comfortable with any of this (feel I have to note, this guy has made sexual remarks towards her and her female friend once before) she ends up going to see the movie anyway because she tells me it'll be a group thing. I say "fine baby, when will you be home" (we do not live together but plan to) she said "idk we're just picking a movie now" 10:40 PM mind you, (she has work the next day). I text her to say "let me know when you get home safe xx" I then didn't here from her again until morning, mind you I was up all night waiting because surely she wouldn't stay the night. She had said she's sorry but she fell asleep on his sofa, and that he'll be driving her to work and we can talk about it later, so I wait, and she tells me she forgot her togs at his house and needs to go get them, I offer to drive her there myself and we can talk in the car. (I have a suspended license unfortunately for the next week) she says oh he's gonna pick me up then take me home. I say ONCE AGAIN I'm not comfortable with that and I knew he'd wanna do that. (She's says "he's my friend", I think he wants her sxally) anyway the day comes to end he picks her up takes her home, done, now I ask to call her and she says we can talk later I've been waiting for 3 hours, we have a trip away in 2 days. I love her, I know she didn't cheat on me, I know she doesn't see it the same way I do, but it felt like she went on a date with the guy right in front of my eyes, I feel betrayed, but don't wanna tell her this as i feel like she'll turn it on me to say I'm being insecure or calling her a cheater. AITA? Idk what to do it hurts and I love her too much to just let her go, we've sat down and talked about boundaries before. It feels like I've been doing my best to stick to hers but it's like she just broke one of mine.