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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/IndependenceHour8973 on 2024-01-23 08:04:39+00:00.
I 39f and my husband 39m have been together 18 years. Married 3. Back in Oct. He came to me about a divorce with much emphasis on its not because of another female. Yet there were already suspicions of another female because of the way he treated this person right in front of me. But I was the crazy one when i confronted him. The next day he has her number. He told her we had been separated. That it was mutual. Among so many other lies. Even ones involving our kids who had no clue. I did not want a divorce. I was trying he was not, for a long while. So I told her the truth, but I "ruined it for him". Jump ahead I gave in around the holidays. I let him back in. My mistake. He had myself and our whole family fooled. Thinking we were going to try. It was one sided. Just me..He had been hiding a lot recently. Bathroom trips every 5 minutes. Turning away with his phone, a password for the first time EVER. So I got brave. I looked. Yep he's talking to her again. Stored under "Greg". Tried to tell me it was another female. Telling her we have been separated this whole time. Buying her jewerly Tells me he never said we were working it out. He accidentally led me on. Begging me not to tell her anything. Threatening he will
"be a devil" if I say anything to her. if I mess this up for him again. All he wants is to be happy. There is so much more I can add. such a screwed up situation. He confessed to her he had been in love with her for over a year. Tells me to my face she makes him happy. Will IBTA if I tell her what he's done..again