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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/AnxiousPandaGif on 2024-01-22 14:14:23+00:00.
I have played video games with my partner ever since we first met. We’ve played so many games, even if I didn’t like them. I did this so that I could get close to my partner more and try to take an interest in what they play. The only problem is I despise the way they play.
Say we start a game together that neither of us have played, I take the classic route of learning as we go. I enjoy the mystery and figuring things out for myself and doing it the way I have ever since I’ve started video games. They take the route of researching how to do everything to do with the game, gaining all the knowledge possible and (in my opinion) ruining it for themself. I see it as slightly cheating, because they get a running head-start and then end up taking the lead and doing everything for themself. I really loved Baldur’s Gate until they started telling me where to go and what to do and letting me fall into their knowledge and spoiling everything for me. I ended up just following them around for the entirety of our play through because I felt stupid for not having picked up the knowledge they did.
Another thing is modding games. They love to add mods that make the games easier or better for them to play. Adding OP equipment or spells which just makes everything too easy to do.
I don’t want to research and they don’t want to go in blind, but I ended up having an argument with them over it and called them a “cheater” for the way they played. They told me to explain how it’s cheating and I said “You don’t get to play the game the way they want you to play. You’d get a lot more out of it for going in blind.” They were very angry about that part, but I genuinely don’t know what to do. Now I feel like an asshole for even bringing it up. They spoil games for me and themselves. It just seems our gaming styles are way too separate. I fully understand if you want to do that in single player stuff, it’s your choice and you’re not affecting anyone, but I just really disagree with the way they do it.
Am I the asshole?