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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Any-Barnacle-9079 on 2024-01-22 20:08:06+00:00.
My husband and I both make over 6 figures, I make a little less than he does. He has a sales job so checks are not always steady. I work a salaried full time job that pays our health care and other benefits. Unfortunately, I have quite a bit of debt largely because he went unpaid for a long time building his career. During this time we had two kids. I have never acted like he should pay my debt. I pay my bills and half (if not more) of the household expenses. I paid half of our house down payment even though he told me he would give me money back for it to pay off some of my debt, that has yet to happen. I don’t have access to his money I have to ask if I need anything over what I can cover for the month- usually unexpected cost like medical or car repairs. But he is always questioning what I spend, if I’m using my cards, and what I am saving. I don’t spend a lot on frivolous things (I would never buy $45 dollar cup lol) my make-up and beauty products are affordable brands, my clothes are purchased on sale, but I do buy stuff for me and the kids that are nice to have- not everything is a necessity. He constantly says it is our money and we are a team. But I disagree- I think he should be the one saving for vacations and other ‘splurges’ and I should be able to spend the rest of my check as I want. AITA for telling him to worry about his money and not mine?