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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Fabulous-Guava-3379 on 2024-01-22 21:04:34+00:00.
I (23f) do not want to hang out with a person my twin (23F) is friends with because we had a falling out and I haven’t received an apology for the part she played in it or even a conversation for that matter. The part I played in it was a result of what this friend did. But I ultimately had to apologize and got nothing in return.
This friend threw out my couch, and every other belonging before I moved out of our place. I made an anonymous post about it on a Facebook group asking for help and advice and I guess someone put two and two together and it got back to this friend. Which I didn’t say anything bad, the post literally said wtf do I do lol
I apologized for my part and took accountability, but my apology was never acknowledged and I haven’t spoken to that person since but my sister wants me to hang out with her for our birthday that I would have to travel 5 hours for. She didn’t even respond to my apology, just ghosted me so it’ll be awkward af.
My sister is telling me to just let it go. But I feel like I am always the one to let it go if it benefits her and I just can’t with it. She hangs out with my ex, I can’t be mad and I have to let it go. I get blamed for shit that has nothing to do with me, I get upset because Im taking the heat for something I didn’t do, but I have to let it go.
I admit I have made some mistakes. i’m human. But I always always always apologize if my actions hurt someone. But I’m not allowed to expect the same in return? I deserve an apology or a conversation, why do I have to be the one to initiate that conversation though? I already initiated the conversation by giving this friend an apology for my part but I recieved radio silence.
My sister is telling me that I’m too proud for wanting an apology and that I’m not that special and she feels like she shouldn’t have to walk on egg shells around me and I should just let it go because the person I had a falling out with has and I’m like probably because she got an apology from me and I got nothing? It’s been 5 months since the falling out, I haven’t even spoken to the friend. She hasn’t tried to reach out. I feel like I deserve an apology for her part.
I never told my sister she couldn’t hang out with her friends for our birthday, it’s just I won’t be there. I said we can celebrate another time if she wants to spend our birthday with her friends and she got mad at me saying that she shouldn’t have to choose between hanging out with her friends and me and I told her I feel like my feelings are not being taken into consideration and we can just celebrate our birthday another time because I would have to travel 5 hours to be put in an uncomfy situation that I’m not interested in and she once again told me I’m not that special and that the world doesn’t revolve around me. Am I the asshole here?