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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Automatic_Bake_1355 on 2024-01-23 16:50:03+00:00.
My husband and I (53F and 56M) have a son (25M) who had been going out with a girl (30F) for about a year and a half. This girl came from a broken background, had been in prison and had an infant son. She'd gotten herself together before he was born, and got clean. While her child didn't belong to my son, he's always treated him like his own. Although the situation was pretty complex, I just wanted to support my baby. Our son still lives with us, while his GF and her boy live in a place their family owns.
Not long ago, I was doing housework when I got a call from my son. He was a mess and told me that his GF had passed away. Apparently she had gotten into the shower while drunk, fell and had died as a result of the fall. This was during a time where she had been supposed to be caring for her boy. My son had gone over (he has a key) and found her, as well as her boy still stuck in his high chair in the kitchen, starving.
I'm sure you can imagine but I was extremely shocked, and that was followed up by a feeling of intense anger for what her baby had gone through. None of us knew she drank anymore and apparently this was her relapsing.
Come the day of the funeral and I see my son holding his GF's son's little hand, and I was just so emotionally wounded for them. After the service, I approached my son and told him how upset I was, and that his GF had been selfish for relapsing and doing what she did with her baby there, and that she had been careless to get so blind drunk she ended up falling.
My son was mad and since then some of my family feel like I overreacted. I want to say that I didn't scream and yell the whole funeral, or refuse to go. It was just that moment where I let him in on my emotions. He hasn't spoken to me yet since then and I want to know, am I the asshole?