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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ConclusionOriginal14 on 2024-01-23 19:46:05+00:00.
EDIT: She was calling Sarah a nanny when she said "looking after white kids". She did add "as a nanny" after "white kids anyway". And yes, Sarah's black.
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I live in the USA, but I migrated here & English is my second language. My wife & her are white.
My step-daughter Lisa (11 F) was playing indoors in our house with her friends today and was in another room. We heard what sounded like crying coming from upstairs later & got startled, deciding to check what the matter was.
Her friend Sarah (11 F) was scared as she had apparently given a jumpscare. Sarah was using the bathroom, and when she returned after taking some time, Lisa stood next to the door and jumped out at her with black paint (we had some in the house)
I said that what she'd done was extremely offensive, asking her to apologize. She said "It was just a joke" and brushed it away & my wife said that kids prank each other. But Lisa was mad that Sarah tattled on her & said "If you want to snitch on me, you can go home. You must have to look after white kids anyway."
I was just shocked & did not know what to do. That resulted in a really huge argument, but she still did not apologize. In the end, all the kids just left.
Her birthday, which is coming up, was cancelled. We'd planned a huge celebration, but I said nothing doing. She began to cry, and my wife got mad & said I am taking a joke too far, etc. Both of them are mad at me & giving the silent treatment, and I am wondering whether I did overreact.
AITA?