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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ozzpawz on 2024-01-24 05:23:17+00:00.
I'm still processing everything that's going on in this situation, and the only person I've really gotten advice and council from is my mom and my boyfriend, so i wanted to ask some unbiased perspectives on what they thought and if I was in the wrong.
I'm still in school, and recently a letter arrived in the mail at my mom's house (my parents are long divorced, and my mom is the dominant address, meaning all school related mail is delivered to her), indicating that i was selected for a class award. I was excited, it's not often that I get academic achievement, I'm not one of those people that put my all into school anymore, but I commend those that do. In the letter parents were invited to come to the school that next Tuesday, which was yesterday.
Here's where the problem comes in, when I came back to my dad's house and told my dad and stepmom about the award they were happy for me, and proud, which really made my day, my relationships are more complicated over there thanks to factors like my mental health and the fact that I'm queer (ftm AND gay). I mentioned that there was something happening on tuesday, and when neither of them inquired further, i dropped it. Im not one to seek public attention, and i genuinely didn't think it was that big of a deal. I didn't think either of them would come anyways, my dad has always showed his disdain for school functions and i can't remember one time my stepmom even WENT to one since maybe elementary school and that's being generous. Another reason I don't think it was a big deal to drop it is that my dad would have heard my preffered name being called, and it just wouldn't have been a good time for anyone.
The ceremony was yesterday by the time i post this, and it really WASNT a big deal, my aunt ended up being there for my cousin and sent my dad a picture of us from my mom, and later on my mom sent him a video, which i expressed frustration about, because he soon after texted me that I guess him and my stepmom just weren't invited and insinuated i purposefully left them out of it. I told him that I specifically remembered mentioning Tuesday and he shut me down and just told me "no".
I have to see him tomorrow, and I'm beyond anxious about this. Aita?