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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Adventurous-Move-377 on 2024-01-24 04:44:06+00:00.
Me and my wife decided to raise our kids in a way that no matter if they were cis straight or LGBTQ theyd always knew we were supportive. Just doing things like never using gendered prounnouns about possible partners or crsuhes and things like that. Our youngest "Mati" (14M) we've kinda figured isnt straight. While he does have a good number of guy friends and will play sports hes also pretty gender non conforming sometimes. You know alot of his friends are girls and he likes to paint his nails and will wear a skirt or eyeliner every now and then. And on weekends visits to the rez to visit his moms family he and another boy he plays basketball with there have gotten pretty "close" like blushing when around eachother close. And being super exicited to "visit his grandparents and cousins" every weekend for the last month or so.
My parents are kinda old school. The oh my 3 yr old looked at a girl once so he must have a crush and we'll be a realy lady killer someday type. My parents are always asking him when he's going to ask one of femal friends out or which one of his "girl friends" is his girlfriend and stuff like that. He's pretty shy and usually just kinda quietly ignores them and chages the subject. But lately he's seemed way more uncomfortable with it. I asked him about it and he told me and his mom thatd he wished his grandparents would stop asking him stuff about that.
My parents were over a few days ago and I took the opportunity to talk to them about what Mati said. They of course got offended and went on about how he needs to stop being so shy and to just get out there and ask one of his friends out. I tried to explain that wasnt the point and that we dont even know of he likes girls because he hasnt said. They start going on about how me and my wife are making him " like that" and I lost my temper. A few choice words were said and it turned into a full blow argument till they went home. I've been getting calls from family saying how I blew normal banter way out of proportion and shouldve just let it go. AITA?