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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sudden_Gas3919 on 2024-01-24 05:42:04+00:00.
I (25 M) have an older brother (33M) who left the family for love 6 years ago. So to make a long story short my older brother who was my best friend fell in love with someone while he was in college. My parents did not approve due to difference in culture and religion, at the time I had no idea what was going on but was told by him and my parents they just had a disagreement and they made up and he stopped seeing this woman.
Come to find out that he lied to everyone and in fact was still seeing this person and not only that but while my parents fully supported him in grad school with a new apartment he was asking for more money for "expenses" but really was just paying for her and what she wanted.
My parents had hoped that when he graduated school and found a job he would be able to help the family. But instead the day after his graduation he sends and email to my parents saying he wants to go no contact unless they support him marrying this woman and sends me a private text basically saying that whatever my parents said about him leaving the family for this woman are true.
I became very upset that he would do this to my parent after all the support they gave him both financially and emotionally. At the time I told my parents go no contact and cut off any remaining finical support.
He later texted me trying to get me to be on his side saying he will always be available if I ever needed him. When I told him that I would not talk to him until he talked to my parents he stated that my parents are not who they seem and claimed they threatened him harm if he stayed with that woman back in college. I refused to believe him as these where the same parents that where willing to sell our house and business to help support his dream of getting into graduate school. He also stated he couldn't believe our parents cut him off without telling him as he was late on a few of his car and apartment payments almost getting him kicked out.
When I told him it was me that convinced our parents to cut him off until he talked to them he went no contact with me for a few years. He did try a few times to contact me but i shut him down saying until he talks to my parents I wouldn't talk to him. I never told him that I knew that when my uncle went to go visit it to try and mediate a talk he refused to see him and called the police for harassment. My uncle was told by the police to leave the state and take a flight back home which he did the same night.
Everything was still the same until my dad told me my brother got in contact with him a few weeks ago. It started off by talking about football and then his family life as apparently I am now an uncle. My dad asked me to keep a dialogue this time if my brother contacts me but I told him I did not want to and I don't see him as a brother anymore after how he hurt the family and me. He asked me to do it for him and I said I would but deep down I don't think I will. So AITA for not wanting to talk to my brother?