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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Greedy-Philosophy-95 on 2024-01-24 08:34:36+00:00.
I (25f) and the father of my baby (23m) have been together for 5 years but have grown apart for some time now. I try to make everything work but it seems to always end up bad. Just to help make this understandable I'll go into some details about what has made us grow apart. We have always had arguments here and there, lately it's gotten really bad. He always makes it seem like I'm at fault for something, which makes me apologize over and over even if I feel I wasn't in the wrong. His favorite thing to say is, "there's right and there's wrong, and I'm always right." When to me he isn't. Just as an example the other night he was driving home from another state after visiting a sick family member. It was 6pm, he would not be home until 11pm. I called because I was almost out of formula for our baby, and I did not have a vehicle to go get some because he had taken it on his trip. I asked if he was feeling okay to get some on his way home, or if he wanted me to go early in the morning. He starts getting annoyed and said I was being difficult and to just tell him what I want him to do instead of giving "an ultimatum" as he put it. So I said, would you mind stopping for some then? He says, "ugh I guess I can drive all the way across town to drive back and then finally be home." So I snapped a little and said I'm sorry it's such an inconvenience to stop to get our child food. Once he's home we argue the rest of the night, at which I apologize for when I feel I was not in the wrong to begin with. This is just the most recent incident that comes to mind that was an argument. Most of the time they're about little things like that, that turn into an ugly hours long argument where I'm crying and apologizing just to not argue anymore. The most upsetting problem I have which makes me want to leave is whenever we argue, he always goes on his phone and texts other people on apps in a sxual manner. It's been about 2-3 years that he does this, and I don't ever see it stopping when when I confront him about it. When I do, it always gets turned around on me with him saying "it's your fault I do those things. If you weren't so mean to me and always cause a problem I wouldn't feel the need to do that." But in my brain, regardless of the situation that should never be the answer to get your emotions out or whatever the reason is he's doing it. It's not even just sxual texts, it's images and videos from both sides. With him telling them he's single and wants to come over to their place. Continued in comments ran out of room.