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How do I help matchmake my colleagues? (monyet.cc)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For context, my teammate (F, 31) is interested to get to know another colleague from a different team (M, 28). The guy is definitely single and doesn’t reject the idea of a relationship (got to know as another teammate helped to ask). FYI, the guy has an introverted personality.

I’m not sure how to help convey my teammate’s feelings to the guy (like help to set a meet up, ask if he’s interested etc), without making it feel awkward for the both of them, should the guy is not interested in my teammate. Any suggestions?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Jio both out for lunch, then midway you ditch both lol 🙈

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I sokong this idea.

Doesn't have to be lunch. Could be a post-work outing with another one or two colleagues who are good at breaking the ice and knows the agenda.

And then ditch F31 and M28 halfway.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Great great, will try this method! Bcs I’m not very close to M28, maybe will get his close colleagues to go along as well!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Invite both of them out to an event and hope for the best. That's how I ended up my boyfie.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

hahahahah ok! que sera sera hehe

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

eh eh eh update us on the after stories ya. thanks haha

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

hahahahah haven’t got to it yet! but will update!!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I've heard the Japanese dating protocol is you get one of his friends to casually ask what he thinks of her. And then if the signals are positive, then you can make it known you've heard she might be interested in being asked out. Ideally this step is indirect too, because you get told not by your teammate, but by someone who is friends with your teammate. So everyone's "face" is always maintained.

Seems like way too many steps though. Maybe just tell him to do a little dance

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

This sounds practical! Thanks for the idea~