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The original was posted on /r/cfs by /u/Dumb_Goldie on 2025-01-31 12:32:24+00:00.
Lately I’ve noticed that I make people feel bad when I correct them about specific things, mostly my accommodations at school.
The first one is my memory aid. Because of the brain fog and that MECFS is believed(known?) to cause brain inflammation, I can make a sheet of paper with little symbols or things to help aid my memory during tests, that way I can function with the memory my classmates do. There are a lot of people who call it a cheat sheet, and I really hate when it gets called that. Calling it a cheat sheet makes it sound like I’m a cheater and that I’m cheating. I know it isn’t what they mean by it, but it still makes me upset so I tell them “it’s similar to a cheat sheet, but it isn’t one because I’m not cheating. It’s a memory aid because of my condition that causes me to struggle to recall memories.” And then people get upset at me even though I thought I was respectful and kind about it.
Then yesterday one of my friends said something about another accommodation of mine. Another one I have is the ability to miss class without permission or getting in trouble because of how unpredictable my symptoms can be. A friend referred to it as me “being able to skip class” whenever I want, which really hurt my feelings and when I explained that his way of explaining it hurt me and is wrong he got upset.
Does anyone have any advice or should I just accept I’m gonna upset people