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How would you deal with right wing parents? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For some context, we are first generation immigrants. My parents are Russian, my mother and her husband have been living here for 20 years (even got rid of Russian citizenship couple years ago), my biological father is still living in Russia.

It's damn exhausting to discuss political topics with them, especially my father. He keeps telling me how great it is to live in Russia, how their economy is doing great and how he's proud that they are defending their "brothers" in Donezk and Luhansk from the evil bandera regime in Ukraine.

My mom voted far right in the past election. She doesn't believe she voted for nazis, but the party's views on economics, climate policy and immigration seem to align with hers. She believes wind farms are harmful for the environment. What the actual fuck.

Whenever I try to argue with them, they tell me that I've been brainwashed by "Western propaganda".

I'm at a loss. I love my parents and I know that nobody's immune to propaganda, but it's heartbreaking to see them holding these toxic beliefs. How would you deal with parents like these? Should I just declare to never talk about politics with them again since it's pointless?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Tell them this, Can't buy a house under Republicans,can't buy a house under Democrats, while it's great it worked out for them. You are not represented as a voter and they need to get their heads out of their ass. That is, if they try to push conservative ideas. Otherwise, let them be happy and stupid. The misery is coming for them eventually, so why rush them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

You can't win, unless you delete their social media. There is nothing you can say or do that won't be erased by their next Facebook visit. They are also co-dependent and will not divert from their course individualy

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

I cut them off.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Leave.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

It's damn exhausting to discuss political topics with them, [...]

Then don't, and if that's the only thing they're willing to talk about, make passive aggressive remarks about their lack of conversational creativity.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Immigrants to where?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Germany

[–] [email protected] -1 points 2 days ago

Ghost them as soon as possible and leave the country and naturalise elsewhere if possible

[–] [email protected] -2 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Feed them gotcha questions. Treat it as a mental exercise.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 days ago (1 children)

We consciously make an effort to either not talk about certain topics or we try to not get too deep into certain topics. This doesn’t always work and we clash, but the clashes don’t cause as much trouble as they used to.

Often I just listen to them and try to support them through the concerns they have. I’m aware that they influence me, being aware helps to either ask them or myself critical questions.

Friends & Family > politics

Now one could argue I’m not serious with my stance and I’m weakly backboned. Id answer that this is my family and I’d advise you don’t put politics over friends & family or you will end up alone at some point.