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Tbh playing Magic the Gathering or Warhammer 40k with random dudes at a hobby store is cheaper and more fun than most traditional dates I've been on.

I usually get people asking for my number or socials when they're interested, asking out tends to happen over electronic communication after that.

My process is basically

1. Casual conversation- if you don't hit it off naturally here, let it go.
2. Reciprocal flirting
3. Exchange contact info
4. Develop friendship
5. Ask out directly
6. ???
7. Go back to 1

I also get told I'm very attractive in various verbage near daily so 🤷‍♀️

Idk, just be respectful and don't be pushy if they're trying to let you down (and pay attention for if they're trying to do it gently)

Is Anon talking out their ass with those stats, or is this actually true?

I started dating my wife when we were both in high school so I'm lucky that I never had to try to start dating in my 20s. But when I was in high school asking out a girl was as simple as walking up and saying "do you want to go out with me?"

I asked out girls that I KNEW there was a 99% chance they'd say no, but I asked anyways. The worst they ever said was "no". Nobody ever laughed in my face or told all their friends or spread rumors about me, they just said no thank you and I moved on.

This was like 2009-2013 mind you; I think young people are a lot more cruel now than they were then.

I've tried and I'm still trying. As someone who is a bit shorter than average and is socially awkward, it's tough. Recently I've been able to get dates with 3 girls from dating apps (due to me being better at flirting and getting a few more matches than before), but they all went nowhere.

1 girl didn't seem to want any touching or flirty things on the first date and the conversation wasn't smooth, so I friendzoned her.

The other 2 girls immediately started with a flirty text conversation.

I hit it off with first one over text, we were having long phone calls and sending raunchy stuff over text. I had one short date with and was planning a spicier 2nd date with but she cancelled because I asked her to be my Valentine on Valentine's Day.

The 2nd one wanted to take things slower, and friendzoned me after 2 longer dates. She also wasn't that into touching.

I never kissed any of these girls. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, especially with the first flirty girl.

For me at this point in my life trying to find someone to date just isn't worth the effort. I have limited time, money, and mental energy and there are better ways to spend it than on women who for the most part won't be interested in me anyway. Unless the relationship turns out great and we're amazingly compatible it's going to add more stress than it's worth. I still go out with my friend (about 30% of whom are women) and we do various activities that I enjoy. I have hobbies that interest me and basically all my free time is occupied between stuff I want to do and chores. If some woman I know I get along with likes me enough to pursue something romantic I might give it a shot but otherwise I'm comfortable with things as they are and I don't want to risk fucking that up by adding someone else into the mix.

I don't buy the "speed dating has less men than women" thing for a second unless they're talking about the 45+ bracket.

In fact I just checked a local speed dating event and the male tickets were sold out and the female ones had a 2 for 1 promo lol