For what it's worth, "Do I want to do her or do I want to be her?" is a whole thing with cis lesbians...
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All my life I’ve had strong crushes on a certain type of woman. Lanky, shy, nerdy, a bit goth. Guess what kind of woman I’m turning out to be!
I always ended up dating curvaceous, bubbly women but the attraction to the nerd was ever present for decades before I realised I was trans.
I guess that powerful attraction was my subconscious trying to drag me towards my true self in its own clumsy way.
tfw your subconscious tricks you into loving yourself
omg
Lanky, shy, nerdy, a bit goth.
Add in some dirty minded snark and dark humor, and that's more or less my type too xD
maybe envy and sexual attraction are one and the same.
moving into somebody or moving into the way of being of somebody else might just be abstractions or imaginations of each other.
Glad to hear other people feel the same way. A few months into a transition and I can say it helps a bit to meet gorgeous cis women who I absolutely get gender envy from, but don't have any sexual attraction too. Helps to learn how to separate those emotions