Welcome to The Against Matrimony Club, we have mimosas.
Asklemmy
A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions
If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!
- Open-ended question
- Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
- Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
- Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
- An actual topic of discussion
Looking for support?
Looking for a community?
- Lemmyverse: community search
- sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
- [email protected]: a community for finding communities
~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_[email protected]~
I think monogamy might just be the uncommon thing, personally.
Incredibly common. I haven't seen any recent estimates but I recall at one time that ~15% of children did not have the biological fathers than they thought they did. It's not to point the finger at women - rates of infidelity may be even higher among men, it's just harder to track independently.
I believed it was ~15% of fathers who did paternity tests, thus already suspecting infidelity, not overall numbers?
This wasn't a published study. This was beers with the folks in the genetics lab at the hospital I worked at. No patient names or other identifying information was involved. They did tissue matching etc. and ran into the issue all the time. On a personal note two close friends have found out they had different biological dads than they thought they did. So maybe my perspective is skewed somewhat.
It’s not to point the finger at women
Just point it at humans unless you're talking about cheaters who step out to swing for the other team.
I’ve been on both sides of it. While not super regular, I’d say it’s not uncommon. Discussing it openly isn’t.
My buddy went to Amsterdam and had the restraint to only get handjobs and has never otherwise gone behind his wife’s back. I’d be surprised if any of my other friends did anything. One couple has guests over for mutual threesomes, so no need for infidelity for them. I know my ex hooked up with another female despite knowing she had a bf. People are ok with lowering their standards when an opportunity presents itself.
Some people are just shittier than others. What they look like on the outside has no bearing on their inner beauty.