Bloom

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

To add to this: Start small if it’s too daunting and go from there.

Sometimes steps you want to take are a bit too ambitious. First try smaller steps to make the big step not so big anymore.

Go and ask your crush out? HUGE STEP. Just talk to them and make small talk, maybe also a bit too big? Send them a cute message on socials or leave a note? Be creative.

What also helps for me is to voice my anxiety. To my friends or to the one you’re experiencing it with. “Okay so I am super nervous” already relieves me from a ton of pressure. It changes the dynamics and creates room for compassion. Let them help you.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Twenty seconds of courage.

Pretend you’re full of confidence and lift yourself up. You’re now the most social person ever existed. You can handle any social situation even this one.

Now, do the thing you want to do and do it for at least twenty seconds. Take your time doing it.

Often it turns out it wasn’t that scary or didn’t go as bad as you thought it would and you can continue doing it. If it does, it’s okay, you tried and that counts too. Practice makes perfect. Also know that how others act is not a reflection of your self worth.

Just a gentle reminder to give yourself some love.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

Yay! That’s huge, I am happy for you!!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

Yay, I am so happy to read this!! You have a big heart! Thanks for spreading love in this world

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Looks cute!!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I’d love to join too ! I don’t know any communities on Matrix, but if there’s none we can start one

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Trans girl checking in! 🏳️‍⚧️ 😇

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

My week was emotional but good! I finally came out to my brother as trans. I was so scared for his reaction.

I prepared a letter, I read it out loud to him half crying and I noticed he had watery eyes too. When I finished reading he hugged me 🥰 and said he just want me to be happy and I felt soooo relieved. Afterwards I received a very thoughtful and supportive message from his gf, who I told him could tell too later. This helps me so much with accepting myself for who I am.

I also baked a cheese cake and some french pastries for an Easter brunch at my mom’s. The brunch was great!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I see it a bit differently. I think your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

Edit: No reply.. I was hoping for a good discussion, but I guess that’s out of the question as you did reply with insensitive and superficial comments to others 🤷‍♀️ You can do better

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago

Yay! Congratz Kaityy ! Welcomee 🥰

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

That’s so cool to be in a place where it’s accepted! Btw sorry for assuming your gender! I’m proud of you that you’re allowing you to discover yourself ❤️ It can be hard to let yourself feel the way you are if you have suppressed your inner self for so long because of the environment you grew up in. It takes time and that’s totally fine! ☺️

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An Unexpected Dress (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

[CW?: supportive family member]

Hii girls! Omg I just had an amazing experience with my mom and I needed to share. My mom and I have been chatting about online shopping and my mom had just bought some dress and a maxi skirt. She showed me both and I said they both look cute and how she had such a good taste.

Then she explained the dress didn’t really fit her well and then I noticed she hesitated to ask me something. And I was like mommm what’s up and she asks me if I wanted to try the dress. I said yes!! Omg and girls the dress looked so unexpectedly great on me I almost cried. I needed a hug and told my mom this made me so happy. She was like: ooohh but then it’s so clear to me now. It’s so clear. 🥰 She told my I could have the dress 😊 Then she pulled out other dresses for me to try.

I told her it was so great to have our first “mother daughter”-moment and we both had tears in our eyes of happiness. That’s allll! Sending you all my love ❤️

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