The person who committed these crimes and the person who his friends describe cannot coexist. One is a fraud, an image he means to project. It’s not hard to figure out which is which..
Of course you don’t want to admit to yourself or others that this person you care about is a monster. I feel bad for his friends and family, and of course the victims.
When I worked in Belgium not only did they pay for your transit costs, they even paid for your car, phone, and lunch. Granted the car and phone were contingent on you having a use for them for your work, but still.
This was nearly 20 years ago.