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I partially addressed this in another comment. A lot of the problem I think is that I don't know how to talk to women beyond just friendly conversation, and I think it may be trauma from past bullying.

Maybe I do want more, and maybe I've given up on trying to find love because I'm just weary of it.

Fully agree that I should speak to a professional, I am part of my workplace's private medical insurance scheme so I could see what they can offer, since getting any help from the NHS is a no-go unless you're at immediate risk of serious harm/death. (Thankfully I am not at that point.)

I've tried seeking help several times. Doctors haven't been particularly helpful (some have just fobbed me off) and the most I got were a few art therapy sessions with a charity a few years back.

Last year after my last breakup I self-referred to the NHS with depression and the most I got was an online cognitive behavioral therapy course that I really could have studied from a book. There was a years-long waiting list before COVID and now things are somehow even worse.

Even trying to go private has been a no-go because every therapist in my city is overbooked.

Fortunately I have private health insurance from my workplace, so I may be able to get therapy through that.

there is a lot of (deserved) hurt and anger that needs to be addressed.

In what respect? It seems worded in a way that implies I deserve what I get, and that is something I really don't understand.

For gay hookups, 100%. The thing is, I'm (mostly) heterosexual and want my first time to be with a woman.

I've also heard from gay friends that Grindr isn't that good either.

I considered dance classes before, but they've often been at times really inconvenient for me.

Pets aren't really an option right now. Unfortunately I still live with parents (much of my country is too damn expensive for a single guy to even rent an apartment in, let alone buy a home.) My parents are vehemently against getting animals.

Btw one dirty advice from the books: if you're trying for a woman that's not single, you're competing against one guy. If she is single, you're competing against everyone. It may not be nice, but everything is fair in war and love, right

Jacking another man's girl goes against my moral code.

I'd argue the inverse that you may be competing with just one guy, but convincing a lady to leave her existing relationship or even cheat is harder.

Also, would you really want to date somebody who is unwilling to stay loyal to their partner?

Unfortunately lemmy is not like other fediverse platforms that allow hiding domains, so if you decide to peek at the /instances page to view what has been blocked do not interact or visit the instances we have defederated from as more than quite a few are known to host genuine illegal content. You have been warned.

I took a glance at the list, and the amount of blocked instances that straight-up mention pedo shit in their URL makes me sick.

To be honest this is going to be a growing issue. Lemmy World already had to disable image hosting and shut down the LemmyShitpost community because spammers from other instances were straight-up overloading the community with tonnes of CP.

I think it would be wise to approach federation from a whitelist rather than a blacklist perspective. Require trusted communities to opt in to be federated with you.

Scissoring: +155%

Oh scissor me timbers!

Definitely back for me. Your ass makes the lingerie look good.

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Actually in the same boat as you. 31 here, haven't done the deed yet and I'm seriously considering going down the escort route.

My dating experiences have ranged from bad to terrible. Ladies here tend to be incredibly frigid.

Here in the UK, prostitution is legal but many things commonly associated with the sex industry (brothels, pimping, kerb crawling, soliciting sex in a public place) are criminalised. But I still think I'd rather go to the Netherlands or Germany since they have fully regulated sex industries.

I mean I don't get foot worship, but I would not say no to a footjob.

I don't get the obsession with wanting as many communities as possible federated with LemmyNSFW. Nobody's going to use their account from another instance to post here...