I'm just reporting what I'm hearing, I didn't poll every trans person out there on this. I can't share my personal communications, but here are two public trans people discussing this over a month ago, if that helps confirm I'm not pulling this from nowhere:
I speak with multiple trans people a day? And we share news and articles? And this joke isn't original?
I'd want to ask her first, because all the trans people I know personally are icked out by it.
Hey, just so you're aware, a lot of women and trans people find this joke pretty misogynistic and transphobic since it implies that it would be more demeaning for Elon to be a woman or queer than it is for him to be his regular cringey self. Something to keep in mind so we don't friendly-fire on our allies!
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ThePowerofGeek, you're great and appreciated and I hope you don't read anything below from the people who want you to have a worse reaction so their feelings don't get hurt vicariously.
Who's to say if it didn't change anything? If it keeps their camp in even slightly more disarray and distrust, the inefficiency in enacting terrible policies could save lives.
That said, I do think this time is a bit different since I believe Bannon is happy to play the role of sycophant, but Elon has a lot of ego going into this. Even with no outside pressure, Trump and Elon are going to have major personality clashes sooner than later.
Specifically on women's mental health deteriorating in this situation, often this can occur when she's still expected to pick up the majority (or all) of domestic labor in addition to her well-paying job. Women are still largely expected to "do it all" by not only their partners but by society. If you're not a perfect businesswoman, mother, and domestic servant all in one all the time, well you're failing your spouse, your children, your boss, your identity as a woman, etc. Women don't just need their male partners to step up for them in labor alone, but also to reevaluate their social role that they are propagating through their (in)actions. What are you teaching your kid if mom is the only one who cooks dinner? Or cleans regularly without reminders? Or keeps track of doctor's visits, field trips, etc?
Ah, yes, understanding where capitalism has produced a worse quality, minimally viable product that makes people a little sad but not enough to effect profit margins enough to change, is clearly due to class divide and not the estrangement of the general population from the products of their labor.
Also that's Ms. Bourgeoisie to you
All you spaghetti haters in this post need to get bronze die cut pasta. Modern machines produce pasta that's too smooth so sauce doesn't stick. The old school extruders/cutters leave a tiny surface texture that allows sauce to cling on!
Good for her. Fuck the BBC for trying to spin this like it's a bad thing for standing up for trans people.
I do think there is one answer that would solve 90%+ of these: legal abortion.
Be aware that if you're keeping up taking care of him, someday it may be in his best interests to keep you from excelling on your own. Please be wary of anything that could sabotage your life plans, and have contingency plans ready. Best of luck ♥️
I just replied to your other comment here with some public notes that calling Elon "First Lady" or in that screenshot, "Elonia", is something that trans people were critiquing for months now. That's what I mean by this very specific comparison isn't a new joke.
And similarly on intentions, I didn't post that to blame and shame the original poster, just to let them know what they were propagating. I know it's likely not intentional. It was great that they responded with compassion and understanding for someone else's perspective!
Jokes are not immune from being bad takes, or from critique. I tried to explain in my initial comment why it is that certain people might not vibe with that joke, and you can take that information for what it is. If you want to keep repeating it anyway, you're certainly free to, but with the knowledge that you may be alienating certain people. That's a choice of values for you: is the joke funnier than trans people's comfort and trust?