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Anyone else? Yes.

(Thanks for the reminder! :D)

This week as well as last week, I am still waiting for my diagnostic report to tell me if I have ADHD or not - the sessions were in September. The wait time has been announced, but I am still impatient, which is kinda fitting, I guess... While it is clear to me, my therapist and the diagnostician that I likely have some kind of neurodivergence, it's not quite clear if ADHD is the ticket. Which also makes sense - if it was super-obvious, somebody would have noticed before my thirties, I hope. I guess I'll know soon enough.

Either way, I still find the ADHD communities such as this one very, very relatable, so if it's alright, I'll just stay on even if I didn't meet the diagnostic criteria. :)

4-5 / 0-1 / 4-5 / 0-1, repeated for at least 1 minute, better 5 minutes or more. (not too deep or light-headedness can happen)

This is resonance frequency breathing (at round about 0,1 Hz) which maximizes heart rate variability and activates the baroreflex (blood pressure). It's usually used with a HRV biofeedback device to find the best individual breathing frequency, but it's not strictly necessary. Just find the speed around these marks that feels good (without feeling like you're out of breath or getting dizzy). Breath into your belly.

There's tons of studies for its effects, but mostly it activates your vagal control, and thus tones down anxiety, can help with depression and PTSD symptoms when done regularly, and also helps with high blood pressure, can make recovery after heart surgery easier, is used in professional sports, may help with IBS etc. Look for papers on "HRV biofeedback effects", if you're interested.

The most immediate effect I personally have is feeling both more relaxed and more alert, similar to after meditation.

I've been using ChatGPT to find inspiration for greeting cards (for birthday, wedding etc.) for people I don't know that well.

I don't want to scare you, but seriously, do NOT just try to push through the burnout by yourself "until life lets up" and leave it at that - I tried that, and all that happened was a break-down, and afterwards not being able to work, period, for several months. My life back then was not sustainable for my body, and it told me through burnout as a last measure to get me to stop living like that.

In recovery, I've also met people who went farther than me (often medication-assisted) and did themselves literal organ damage - one lady had a nearly complete shut-down of the adrenal glands, another had a series of mini-strokes due to elevated blood pressure... it gets bad.

You say there are only two weeks to go, and I wish you the best to get there in one piece. Do try exercising, avoiding screens for two hours before bed, listen to an audiobook to fall asleep, try lavender tea or something, use all the tips.

But please know that afterwards it will not necessarily be over, the exhaustion may stay or come back easily, and you really, really need to reach out to a professional, your GP or psychiatrist and look into treatment options, not just coping options.

Wish you all the best!

In christianity, there are recognized forms of prayer that are literally the same technique as focus-based meditation - only that the focus is not your breath, or a candle, but your inner connection to god as you experience it. This is called contemplation and has a centuries-long history in christian mysticism.

If you practice it, I confidently say you would gain quite the same benefits as you would with focus-based meditation.

Also I have tried both, and don't feel much of a difference in terms of "what I'm doing with my brain".

I'm sure you're talking about people going " Please god, give me the new car I've wanted for so long" rather than prayer as a spiritual practice to gain connection to the the "first reality before any thought arises", which is how modern christian mystics define god, so this likely isn't relevant to you and your beliefs and also isn't meant to be a rebuttal of your overall stance.

I just wanted to let you know that in this instance you are, indeed, factually wrong.

Anfang 30, in Ostdeutschland geboren, aufgewachsen und weiter dort (wenn auch anderes Bundesland) - und hab mich nie Ostdeutsch gefühlt, bis ich studieren gegangen bin und das erste Mal wirklich intensiv "Westdeutsche" meines Alters getroffen habe. Da musste ich mir dann eingestehen, dass meine Lebensrealität und was ich für "normal" halte, sehr von der DDR-Vergangenheit der mich erziehenden Generationen (Eltern, Großeltern, Lehrer, Erzieher), der Wende und ihren Nachwehen geprägt waren.

Ich empfehle in diesem Zusammenhang das Buch "Nullerjahre" - die Spezifika sind auf vielen Ebenen anders, aber in dem beschriebenen Lebensgefühl der nächsten Generation nach den Wendekindern hab ich mich sehr wiedergefunden.

Ich sekundiere Duolingo - für den ersten Einstieg, über satzbau bis zu nützlichen Alltagsphrasen ist es ne tolle Art, gamifiziert eine Sprache zu lernen (auch wenn Grammatik oft bisschen kurz kommt.) Gegen bisschen Geld auch ohne Werbung. Und die Töne kann man auch in der App ausmachen, wenn sie nerven!

Auch gut: Bücher lesen, die man schon kennt. Harry Potter mit minimalem Schulenglisch im Original zu lesen hat bei mir echt einen krassen Durchbruch im Sprachgefühl gebracht, und viele implizite Vokabeln, die man sich dann aus dem (schon bekannten) Kontext heraus erschließt.

Now I see it, too! Not my intention, but I'm also not mad at it - boobs are indeed very lovable. Thank you for that wonderful association!

Thank you!

I was in a very similar position during 2022. It's a perfect burnout recipe, chronic stressors everywhere and no power to change them. I could feel it building, but was still able to work and the personal stakes were high, so I wanted to make it to the end (which would have been in early 2023). I didn't. I had a break-down in fall, I couldn't do anything anymore (no focus, no energy, really bad memory, lots of mistakes at work). I took sick leave and have been in recovery since, and still don't feel really alright. I have met people who went further than me and have done themselves really bad, and even physical damage doing so - psyche and body feel different, but they are parts of the same organism, and to overtax one is to overtax the other.

In no way was it worth it. I would have chosen differently if I had known what the later stages of burnout felt like.

I really mean it - if it's in any way feasible and you've exhausted other pathways to change inside your role, quit before your body does it for you.

When you feel the burnout building up, you really should not try to stick it out "just until this project is done and I can get some rest"...