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Hi friends, I'm 36 and recently just discovered what ADHD actually is, and am waiting for a consultation/diagnosis from a psychologist (a few more weeks on the wait list I think).

Apologies for the long post, but I'm working through some shit and feel the need to share here.

Anyways, as Ive been processing what having ADHD might mean for my life, Ive been having some incredible "aha!" moments about areas of my life where I feel significant amounts of shame for coming up short.

The one that I'm having now, which I'm very curious to know if anyone has also experienced, is an extreme amount of frustration and stress when my spouse starts "task stacking" with me. She'll ask me to do something around the house, or with our kiddo, and then while I'm in the middle of doing that thing, she'll ask me to do another second thing, and then a third, and so on until either all of the tasks are finished or I politely ask her to stop piling work onto my plate.

Relatedly, when we were dating we would spend a lot of time hiking together and its where we got to know each other a lot. However once we got married I began to really dread the days when we went hiking together. My thoughts on this now are that, we would have to wake up super early (which sucks but isnt a deal breaker in itself), but my wife would spend the entire morning in a whirlwind of task stacking, talking to fast to understand, and then have an unbreakable rigid "get out the door" time. Once we were in the cat to go hiking, I was a complete wreck of feeling exhausted and beaten down. I never had any of these frustrations or dread of hiking before we lived together.

This ended up in me coming to the conclusion that maybe I really don't like hiking at all (which I'm starting to suspect is not actually true), and then fighting back on planning days to go hiking (planning is another massively shameful kryptonite of mine, but that's another story). She's also silently blamed me quite a lot for taking away something that she really loved doing together, and I've felt this existentially deep shame about "false advertising" for myself while dating as an adventurous spirit, only to turn into a massive homebody once we got married.

Essentially, I'm starting to realize that many of the things that have caused me deep shame and cost me insane amounts of relational capital in my marriage might actually just be symptoms of ADHD.

Can anyone else here validate whether or not these sound like ADHD symptoms you've experienced and, if so, whether or not those symptoms have been helped by medication?

These bikes are manufactured and distributed by World Bicycle Relief, and while their model of charity is far from perfect (read here for an article with more info and cool background on African bike culture), the design itself is really intriguing.

For sure it's a heavy-ass bike, but if you live somewhere relatively flat and don't need to go very fast (aka an urban downtown area), I can imagine that this thing might be an incredibly useful bike.

cross-posted from: https://fedia.io/m/[email protected]/t/1572332

If you’re looking for an affordable and accessible way to live longer, skip the pricey wellness retreats and quirky biohacks—just bike to work.

Just popping in here to say how much it sucks to be so torn between cheering for our guys (who I feel like I really want to support), and fully realizing that they are in Utah now and that I have no reason to care about that franchise.

I missed following the off season stuff in a way that felt like I cared. I was shocked when GMBA traded away Geekie and got Sergachev, but...its not my team to give a shit about anymore.

It just feels sad to not have them around anymore. Even if the owners were total dicks that would have kept us from winning forever. Fuck the Meruelos.

This is the kickstarter for the latest in my absolutely favorite book series - the Bikes in Space short story collections from Microcosm Publishing.

This particular book features 12 stories from a splendid garden of potential futures, from the speculative to the surreal—all powered by bicycles, grounded in feminism, and blossoming with creativity.

I am not associated with Microcosm or the authors here in any way - just a huge fan of these books. I think there are people here who would really love this.

I have an aluminum Brodie Revel bike that I've attached a kids seat to. Is it safe for me to mount a double kickstand like the one in the link to this bike? It doesn't have a mounting plate, and someone told me I should only attach these to steel bikes or it will break the frame. Any insight would be super appreciated!

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/24901802

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/16790112

Just tried commuting on my bike from Santa Monica to downtown Culver City today. I took the Exposition bike path, which was fine until I needed to get off of it to head south.

Google recommended I take National and--lo and behold--there's no bike lane with cars flying past at 55mph+ on blind hills. That's a death trap.

On the way home I left early to avoid traffic. I took Venice Blvd, since it has a protected bike lane all the way until McLaughlin which Google Maps called "bicycle friendly." No bike lane, of course, with cars flying past leaving a foot of distance between me and death. One testy driver in a BMW didn't want to wait the 15 seconds for me to pedal into the left turn lane to get back onto the Exposition bike path, honking and then flying by nearly killing me. Jeez lady, I'm not the city planner. Don't kill me to save 15 seconds.

How does Culver City put zero bike lanes going north to south connecting to the Exposition path? How do these drivers maintain their licenses?

What's a cyclist to do?

As mentioned in the title, BikeForums.net is a treasure, and you should bookmark it