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I'm sure there is more to it but telling you she had kids so you can take care of her sounds pretty bad - even though I know it's not uncommon.

I have had to have this talk with my parents as well since I moved to a different country at 19. I've told them to prepare for me not to be able to be around all the time, and luckily they have done that. It still feels selfish after so many years and they have been great about it, so I can understand this conversation being extremely difficult when the parents expect to be taken care of.

I'd honestly pay a bit more to buy from better vendors. Price, options, shipping aren't the things why I end up using Amazon mostly (despite not liking it).

It's the fact that if I need to return something I just click 2 buttons and no questions asked a guy shows up at my door tomorrow to pick it up and my refund is back in my account by the evening.

If other vendors started doing that without all the caveats and conditions and such, I'd never look back.

I never understood why ending your own life is illegal, in general.

What is the government gonna do if I yeet myself off a cliff..? Throw my corpse in prison?

I followed the advice to not get close to colleagues for the last 10 years or so and regret it. I did it because I thought it'd make work harder when we disagree and I'm balancing friendship vs professionalism. Realistically, all the people I would have been friends with are mature enough to make it a non-issue.

I have started reaching out to some of my ex-colleagues I got on well with but it's very difficult to rebuild the relationship without the daily interactions. However, I have a job at the moment because I have reached out to an ex-colleague just to catch up.

I'd say if you meet someone you like, try to make friends. Jobs will come and go but finding good people to surround yourself with gets much harder as you get older.

Interesting, for all its faults I have found Plex to work very reliably for playback.

You can also try emby, it has its own different faults but I've found it better for my above issues than jellyfin. I remember finding something else with it which made me go back to Plex again, but it escapes me what it was.

Has this ever backfired on you? While your motive is wholesome, I could see the practice itself seeming creepy. Like keeping notes of someone else's life.

Not OP but there were 3 things that made me switch back after about 2 weeks (around 5 months ago):

1. Lack of intro and credit skipping (I think they're working towards it tho?). There was an add-on but it just wasn't a comparable experience
2. Poor options to customize subtitle display (wasn't even looking for much, just a black outline and maybe bolder font). I forget the detail about what was missing at this point, just remember being annoyed with it.
3. The android app on TV just felt like they never considered it may be used with a remote (some buttons and menus in annoying to reach places, like the alphabet for quickly jumping in a library). Also felt like there were 3-4 differently bad screens for browsing the library rather than 1 good one.

It's very impressive how good they made jellyfin with volunteer effort, it's just very tough to compete with paid staff (in terms of how much time can they put into each feature and part). I do hope it gets there, cuz plex has been circling the drain for a while for me now.

Probably a question of time and patience. My advice would be to be in its' company but don't push space boundaries. E.g. be in the same room doing your own thing, maybe sometimes speak to it, look at it and slow blink and just carry on with your own life.

Offer food and treats in your company (same deal, give food but stick around in the room, but give it space). Sit a lil bit closer to it over time to build trust but avoid initiating touch. Try to play (like string on a stick or something similarly simple), some cats value playtime over food. One of my cats values just being stared at over both food and play, they each have their own preferences - once you figure it out it'll be a lot easier.

Eventually it'll learn to trust you and associate your presence with food and play.

Just be aware that it may take weeks or months to build a bond, although if you aren't seeing any improvement at all (like cat is tense when you're around, even from a distance, reluctant to eat when you're near etc) in 2 or so weeks time then the method isn't working and you gotta try something else.

Good luck, and thank your for caring for it!

I don't live there anymore - I moved again after 3 years to a different country.

It was worth it because I got out of my home country which is a crap place to live - it turned a lot worse over the past decade too.

Also because it was straight after high school, I did not have much going for me in career prospects. I ended up getting a bit lucky and meeting the right person and got a job as a 1st employee in a startup which didnt work out, but has given me so much experience that my career took off afterward and I managed to do quite well for myself.

Just comparing my life to my brother who has basically taken the path I was going to, same type of career as well. My experiences past high school just seem so much better than his was/is. And in all honesty his life has been pretty good compared to the average of other people in my home country.

After high school I was going to go to university in the country I was born in. Applied, got accepted, got a government scholarship and all - years of work and studying to get a good profile and grades for it.

A month before graduation I ended up deciding to move to a different country with a friend instead, with the idea that we'd work there for a year and then go back home to do university. We moved a week after high school graduation, I never moved back but he did. This was 13 years ago and the best decision I ever made for sure (and he still sometimes regrets going back).

What's the reason?

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