Autism

I'm here. I think.

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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bishop_Castle

https://gazette.com/life/jim-bishop-s-castle-a-towering-legacy-forged-through-sickness-and-tragedy/article_60059798-a844-11ef-aa2e-774a672d0ef0.html

I worked from 3pm to 5am this morning. And now I am going to get on my daily morning meeting. Then I will have a morning beer and go to bed. It's the upside down y'all.

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I am now on call for a week. I call it going under or the upside down because the entire week becomes a weird time warp.

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The stress of a divorce and the rising tide of fascism have caused me to seriously regress in self care skills over the past few years. I am currently struggling with eating/“meal planning.” I am intellectually capable of understanding what is necessary to grocery shop/plan out meals, and used to be able to do so, but am struggling with executive dysfunction to the point where I cannot.

For the past two years, my diet has been fast food, chips, beer and candy. I had a few “safe foods” - specific brands of frozen meals that were reliable, but of late they are not working. Eg, I have been lying on the floor for the past five hours feeling absolutely famished, have considered going to the refrigerator and making one of the frozen meals that is usually “safe” - and am utterly incapable of doing so. I don’t think I could even eat it if I made it.

I’m guessing this is autism - I’m guessing I’m autistic - but there has never been any means for me to be evaluated. I have talked to my therapist about this, and have not really found the advice helpful.

The most effective thing has been stocking up on things like lunchables to at least get calories in. Sometimes even lunchables will stop being “safe” though. It gets harder to function when I’m hungry, so I get caught in a loop of lying in bed hungrier and hungrier. I know I can’t live off of gas station pizza and Monster, but there have been days where that’s all I feel capable of eating.

I was thinking about doing a weekly Tips and Tricks thread. To help get through life. Anything that you have found helpful to make life easier. Doesn't have to be autism related per se. Just trying to make life easier. There are so many little things we just don't know until it's pointed out.

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The dutch know a thing or two about water

Explain things to me

It's Monday. My kitten threw up on my blanket. So yes it is Monday.

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Hit a wall then engage in some forensic sleuthing and realize, oh shit Ive been redlining for at least 2 months and wasnt even aware? Like you just put your head down and plow through because well, thats what you gotta do only to realize you exceeded your capacity ages ago without even recognizing youve been struggling hard? Only through reflection on the past can you ascertain your feelings? In my experience, sometimes it do be like that. Much love my spectrum peeps. Remember to take care of yourself.

Somebody suggested doing this only weekly. What do you guys think?

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Good morning at this moment in my location. I really wish I could eat spicy food. Chili crisp looks so delicious, but I would be bent over with cramps if I touched it.

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I did something two days in a row! I'm doing it! I am moderating!

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As someone born in the 80s, raised on plastic (even my baby bottles) and has IGA Nephropathy this interesting to me.

So I am now reading up and studying what makes a good moderator. There will probably be changes as I learn. One thing I would like to do for now to encourage engagement and make everyone comfortable is to have the "Hey, what's going on!" Post. This is a daily post for "casual" conversation. If you want to post or talk about something non autism related this is where to do it. For example if you want to info dump about your special interest but it doesn't fall into "autism related" then you can post it here in the comments. All other rules still active, be respectful to each other.

This finally occurred to me the other day. NTs can just have a conversation without putting in to much effort but for us it requires concentration. Casual small talk becomes a chore so we get tired off it and try to get out of the conversation. This isn't something NTs can understand since they don't have to put thought into talking and acting "normal."

The possible exception to this is when Autistic people talk about special interests. This creates dopamine in the brain so we basically become high.

Ok, I have been made moderator. Already have three reports to review and have to really pay attention to the sub. This is going to be fun.

So a little about myself and my qualifications. I have none. I'm undiagnosed high functioning / asbergers / etc. I am a 44 year old Network Engineer that lives in the Midwest with my brilliant wife and six cats.

Wish me luck!

As you may have noticed the moderators of this community are inactive for quite a while now. I have created an alternative here, which I will try to moderate to the best of my abilities.

If so, please remove the Autism Place links on the sidebar as the instance is dead. I wouldn't mind a link to [email protected] either

Watch the video, it's lovely

Well, I've just joined the cool kids, having being formally diagnosed this week. - Not that anyone was surprised. I think I aced the test.

The psych asked at the end how I felt about the diagnosis, and honestly I don't know. I'm not sure I feel anything, maybe it's because I've strongly suspected for many years. - is this normal?

So now what? Not sure if I should tell work, there seem to be pros and cons to it. Being technical my work is already pretty accommodating. Family already knew, and socially there isn't a problem, as I don't do social.

It all seems a bit anticlimactic, but at least I I'll have a letter that says I'm not neuroboring.

I want to study, learn and self teach myself things that interest me like learning the Japanese language and learning how to draw but I'll also sometimes have the issue of information filling up in my mind and overloading without it actually being retained or only a small amount of information being retained

The overloaded feeling sometimes even leads to mild to worser headaches

I absolutely hate this issue because I love self teaching myself things I'm interested in but this issue stops me from self teaching and learning properly

I had trouble a while ago with a roommate who was resisting cleaning up his room when I needed to get everyone out to deal with roaches that came in when I was trying to help a friend who needed to look for a new room to rent. He's still looking and he's blown multiple opportunities by not having the money saved when he was told to move in. He's living with his family right now.

The owner of the house was extremely generous and he said he didn't want to do an eviction or force me to kick anyone out around the holidays but he also didn't want to wait until January or February to start dealing with the roaches. I paid for everyone to have a storage unit for two months to keep their stuff in while I worked on dealing with the problem. Everyone else got packed up and moved most of their stuff out quickly. The roommate with autism dragged his feet with cleaning up. I told him that he had to get move of his stuff moved out by November or I was going to kick him out because I'm not getting evicted because I have a roommate who filled his room with junk and refuses to clean. There mostly wasn't actual trash but he had way too much stuff for the room that he was living in.

Right now I'm working on setting clear expectations with him because I don't want the problem happening again and then I have to kick him out. A lot of his stuff is still in storage which he's paying for now, so he has to go through it and throw stuff away. I told him while we were cleaning that he could focus entirely on just taking stuff out temporarily and he didn't need to make a decision at the time, which is what I think saved him because I don't think he would have been able to get stuff moved out by November if he had been trying to make decisions about what to throw away.

I've been talking to him about learning how to throw stuff away because it's something that he clearly hasn't got comfortable with. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions that I can give him? It doesn't matter to me if he wants to perpetually pay for a storage unit to keep stuff in, but if he's keeping it there long term then he might as well throw it away because obviously he's not using it.