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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ngasimanya on 2023-10-05 06:51:19.

Y'all. At a major meeting with a client, and my period is here with a vengeance, with legendary bloating and the runs. I keep having to step out of the room, and at some point my manager (sweet older man) texts me to tell me that it's impolite for me to step out all the time during the meeting. I explained to him that I have a runny tummy and he was fine with it but has me thinking about how stupid and inconvenient and painful and overall dumb periods are. And I have NORMAL menstrual periods!! Can't imagine how horrible life must be for y'all.

Sending you all strength from the bathroom!

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ZazyzzyO on 2023-10-05 09:34:40.

Ok, so this happened a year ago. And, I think about it every now and then when i grocery shop.

I was in a grocery store pushing a cart and after about the 4th aisle I realized this weirdo was following me down each aisle I was going. He had a basket with nothing inside it and always pretended to be looking at the shelves. I sometimes go down aisle by aisle when i don't have a list in mind of what to by. Often times i get a basket when i know what few things i need- so that's what alerted me when this guy was on his 4th aisle with nothing in his basket!!!!!

So, I decided to go back to the beginning aisle i started and turn around to stare at him at the end of the aisle where he would enter . If he came to that aisle then he was 100% in fact following me. And, he did. I gave him a pissed off look like "I know your following me your idiot." I didn't see him again thankfully after that and carried on my shopping cause i didn't want to be intimidated and ruin my shopping plans.

Because i was further paranoid and it was dark out i didn't drive straight home in case people wait for you in the parking lot. So, to see if i was being followed i drove into a nearby apartment building front area with a circular driveway and an odd car behind me drove into a closed entrance to the apartment building parking and stopped abruptly! It was really really odd. Anyhow I sped off after that car stopped.Maybe it was this weirdo. Maybe it wasn't.And, then i went to another grocery store to pick up a few thing before going back home.

Now. In this situation should I have driven to the police station first? And if i had what then? Just stay in the parking lot of the police station or tell the police about how i "thought" i was being followed in a store and make a police report for nothing major. I called the grocery store the next day to alert the manger there(in case this guy does it to other people) and she said if it happens again to come to the customer service desk. But this kind of thing never happened before so i didn't know what to do. And, as a women with people being trafficked in the world it's not a fun feeling.

So what should we be doing?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/smokeythegirlbear on 2023-10-05 06:01:59.

My ex came into my office and tried to have a conversation with me about a fight the other day but he got worked up and would not stop yelling at me. I never raised my voice and I told him to get out that I’m not talking to him like this.

He kept yelling at me and blocked the door way. I got up to close the door and he didn’t let me at first and then conceded. Even when I closed the door he kept yelling and berating me and hit a wall.

When he gets angry like this it makes really scared. Like my body physically feels my fight or flight kicking in.

He doesn’t physically hurt me or make threats but it makes me scared because I feel like if hewanted to he could escalate it.

Anyways it’s happened on several occasions and so I told him to stop yelling or I’ll call the cops. He kept yelling and I called 911.

He’s arguing with me about how I’m overreacting. I don’t think I am but maybe because he didn’t make threats and he did eventually get out of my office maybe he has a point? But at the end of the day he was scaring me so I’m not sure

Growing up my dad and brother would get angry like this and WOULD get violent with me so I am sensitive to anger and yelling.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/CoffeeAndCats2000 on 2023-10-05 08:26:59.

My husband is not America but he is pretty moderate for his country (Greece, we live here) I’m more liberal then most Greeks but that would have me conservative in America.

But almost all Greeks hate Andrew Tate with a passion and it’s a macho society, unfortunately he is rotting the minds of our children. Like he really is, the 13-18 year old males who are in the awkward part of life seem to gravitate to that AH. They even organised a protest when he was thrown in jail and not charged properly. This was wrong obviously and did nothing but increase his popularity because now he’s a victim instead of a scum bag.

So my husband in public, whenever young men are around, bashes him. He literally picks apart every tweet, every picture, everything and mocks him. My husband is the ideal Greek men and a lot of Greek boys look up to him. It bothered me at first bc I was like why give him the time of day. But he explained his reasoning.

I appreciate that he does this. That is the only way to really reach the vulnerable young men who are falling down the incel hole. Men have to be the ones to break apart the facade not women.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/MadmanRogers on 2023-10-05 02:31:10.

I'm talking about these things

In the advertisement, women wear them with their pants fully up, sticking the cup in their underwear, and it works perfectly. Not only do the advertisements say that, I only ever hear of people doing exactly that and it just works.

However, I hold it in the exact same position... well I never tried it with my pants fully up because I know it'd just be a mess. Even with my pants knees down, it won't work, I'll piss all over myself, the thing doesn't work and only allows spillage.

So, completely bottom nude, legs kinda spread out, not aiming for a target, just anywhere as long as there's no direct spillage... I managed to get it somewhat right, but there's still droplets of spillage, and that's if I really control the urine flow. If I'd let it flow the way I so sitting down, no way that'd work.

And that's not to mention that in order to hold the thing to my crotch, I need to stay slightly bent over all the time. I physically can't do it standing straight up.

So, yeah, just how the fuck are you supposed to use these things without described issues, let alone use it how the people in the advertisements and reviews use it.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/rpaul9578 on 2023-10-05 03:02:18.

"A woman who joined in abortion clarification lawsuits against US states earlier this year after her own traumatic experience is now running for the Tennessee House of Representatives."

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ebbie45 on 2023-10-05 02:21:10.

Title says it all.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Sbasbasba on 2023-10-05 03:33:22.

Ok here is the thing… my niece (F/13) slept over my house. After she left I went to change the bedsheets where she slept and I saw a LARGE area of blood. Now it’s LARGE. I get that periods can be heavy, but this was a 12 inches wide circular stain that penetrated deep into many layers of sheets and mattress. No big deal, I get this happens. But I was just kind of concerned about the amount. I also noticed blood on our bathroom floor and mats and on the toilet seat, as well as heavy soaked toilet paper in the trash can.

I had to let her mom know that there was a lot of blood, and to make sure her daughter is ok. I mentioned it could be a heavy period but thought I would let her know. Anyway, her mom (my sister in law) ghosted me and hasn’t talked to me since. I feel super awkward now like did I overstep or cross a boundary or something? I would wanna know as a mom, but I guess she found it weird.

Editing to add: I am a female (32 y/o) I get periods. I have never seen so much blood, overnight? I get some people get heavier ones but in general isn’t only 3-6 tablespoons of blood during the whole duration? This was like a pitcher or blood. Looked like a crime scene I freaked out a little

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/GeneralizedPanic on 2023-10-04 23:37:03.

This is not half as serious as this sub usually gets. Please enjoy this rant about my constant mild discomfort.

I work outdoors in an arctic tundra. No, wait, let me check my notes. Ok - I work indoors in a completely normal American office building that masquerades as an arctic tundra.

I prepare for my work day with regionally and seasonally inappropriate layers. Every day is sweater weather followed by sweaty commute. I've made the mistake of wearing a cute dress without fleece tights exactly once. That was a dark day. I prayed for a tonton to shelter me in its gloriously warm innards, but alas, no sci-fi creature presented itself for disembowelment.

I've given up all pretenses of looking professional. I huddle under a blanket with my tiny space heater. I make cups of coffee that are only for warming my hands.

I'm convinced the thermostats are decorative. No amount of fiddling woth any of them has ever raised the thermometer in my office over 68 degrees.

I hope, one day, to acclimate to life as a Swanson's Frozen Professional.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/RedMonkey4466 on 2023-10-05 00:33:31.

Thank you all for being sisters. ❤️

l was at a metal show last night (Kim Dracula, Falling in Reverse, and Avenged Sevenfold🤘) when I heard a woman yell out "911 emergency, does anyone have a tampon?" Immediately a group of women gathered round and rummaged through bags, and someone managed to save the day with a pad.

The world sucks. It's rough out there. But we've got to have each other's backs. And carry spare feminine hygiene products. Because you never know who might need one in the next stall.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ecpella on 2023-10-05 00:12:23.

I just hate that every influencer and wanna be is saying this now. I can’t explain why I hate it so much but it’s in line with my hatred of “hubby/wifey”

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ok-Breakfast-5246 on 2023-10-04 22:21:42.

Ever since the pandemic, I feel like life has been stagnant and a blur. Time is flying by, I don’t feel as involved or present. Everything is expensive and it’s like every other day, something big happens. I don’t necessarily feel sad, I just feel empty. Curious if this has been the same for others?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/unexpectedstorytime on 2023-10-05 00:03:16.

What the fresh hell is wrong with men? And why does this BS not get called out on other subreddits? I'm not linking it, please do not brigade.

That's not grief. That's not even a rational response---she experienced a serious medical event and he's trying to kick her out of bed at 6 am the next morning to care for his son.

I end up insanely

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/kiggykiggykiggy on 2023-10-04 22:36:14.

I keep getting recommended these random shorts on YouTube about how this guy going on about “why is it so hard for a woman to apologise”…..

I watched out of curiosity, and the man in the video says that women “get upset at the angry reaction of the man” rather than “taking ownership of their behaviour and recognising the harm caused.”

I’m so incredibly confused by this because in my experience, I’m usually the one who’s apologised to the men in my life. Usually, I over apologise if anything and people tell me I say sorry TOO much.

Sure, I’m not going to sit here and pretend I’m perfect because I’m absolutely not. I make mistakes like any human and I feel like I take strides to really own those mistakes. I have upset plenty of people over my nearly 30 years but I’ve owned it and I know straight away when I’ve fucked up, especially when I’ve really hurt someone . This whole “women dodge accountability” and “don’t take ownership”…. Where has this even come from? 😹

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/here4theride2021 on 2023-10-04 22:47:49.

The other day my brother came home while on the phone with our mother. She was on speaker and she was ranting to him on how he has to continue to improve himself. Since my brother saw me in the living room, he asked my mom "What about my sister?" (me). She replied, "I've lost all hope with your sister". It hurt. It really hurt. I had already suspected it for a long time but decided to continue trying to earn her approval.

I'm the eldest daughter. From a young age I cooked, cleaned, helped raise my brother, helped her at her job, listened to her rant on and on about her problems and about my dad, paid for groceries, and even took her out on expensive vacations. The list goes on. I waited to sob once the house was empty. I'm a college student in my last semester and I'm a good student. Just the other day my mom was telling me that she wanted to throw a party for my graduation. I was excited. All my hard work was paying off. College as a first gen is very hard for a number of reasons and I had to face it all alone. But after hearing what she really thinks about me, I don't want a party anymore. I don't want anything. She never approved of what I went to college for since it's not a STEM major or anything reputable. She always tried to convince me to change my major from broadcast media to veterinarian since I've always loved animals. A lot of friends and cousins who are around the same age as me have started to get married and have kids or have finished their studies. Maybe she's disappointed because I never changed career paths or never even brought a boy home? I feel stupid for kissing ass for the longest time. I'm very tired.

I don't have anything against my brother, we actually get along fine, but I wonder what else has she said to him behind my back. I don't have many friends and the ones I do have have their own lives and problems and I don't want to burden them with mine. Sorry, I went on a long rant, but thank you for reading if you made it this far. I just wanted to tell someone.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Grimnoir on 2023-10-04 21:12:04.

Alright so this is going to be a super low stakes rant lol.

I feel like everything everywhere is always gold gold gold and I am not a gold gal. I've been looking for a black bag with silver hardware that I like for forever. Recently I had to go to four different stores to find a decent pair of sunglasses with silver rims. And just stopping in the jewelry section at a Target while I was there for groceries, I was looking at necklace chains for this cute necklace I got and it's all 98% gold stuff!

Am I like the only woman on planet Earth that prefers silver or something? Just annoyed that every time I am looking for well... anything, silver is so scarce. And while yes I can just internet for what I need, for some things it would just be nice to look at them and see how I like them before I buy them, ya know?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/WeirdStitches on 2023-10-04 21:20:23.

I recently started watching 2 little boys, 8 and 4. The 4 yr old is not fully potty trained so I had to give him a bath after an accident

It was then that I found out that no one has taught these children how to clean themselves. I guess they were just getting in the bath and not actually cleaning just sitting in soapy water

I explained to the 4 yr old how to clean and where to clean but after talking to the 8 yr old I also found out he does not clean with soap.

I can’t be in the bathroom while the 8 yr old bathes, he’s not my child and he’s too old for that to be appropriate. I’m really unsure of what to do here. I brought it up to the parents but they seem to believe it’s ok? How do I help this child(and any future partner) without crossing boundaries?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Over_Try_4769 on 2023-10-04 19:10:11.

I asked my manager for a meeting to discuss how I can work myself up to raise. I don’t know if I should bring up that I know how much my coworkers make .

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Feminism388 on 2023-10-04 21:15:58.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/JavaJapes on 2023-10-04 20:50:44.

The last time this happened, it ended his sister's marriage, because her husband asked to open the marriage, she said "it can't be family members" (because that should be obvious?!) and his first request was to have me. No, he didn't ever speak to me or my husband about it. He just assumed I would of course be willing. He was my husband's friend.

Today, a different friend of my husband's came to drop something off while my husband was away. My dog (over 100lbs mutt, probably German Shepherd/mastiff) would not stop barking at him. Normally he barks at first but would settle down, but not this time. He wanted that guy out. Sure enough, he tries to flirt with me before he goes. So I kicked his ass to the curb.

I'm so sick of this happening.

Even if I wore a paper bag that smelled like literal rotting cow shit, rapists are going to to rape, creeps are gonna creep. But it still makes me want to try in the hopes that someone won't betray my husband. Which is illogical, given he doesn't really want to be friends with creeps anyways. But some of you might get the feeling, maybe.

I cant even go to medical professionals without being sexualized. My last psychiatrist and the psychologist before him both said that I give off "sexual energy" and I need to learn how to stop leading men on. Or to the bus stop in a safe neighbourhood; I'll always worry someone else will force themselves on me again.

For all the people who blame victims for what happens to them (not that I imagine most on this sub are, I would assume the opposite or I wouldn't bother posting about this here), I grew up religious and sheltered. I am not serving up any kind of energy whatsoever.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Maeves_R on 2023-10-04 20:47:54.

Hi everyone! This is my first post here , but basically I 24F had surgery for endometriosis yesterday and I was very anxious for it. My boyfriend supported me throughout the whole process. Coming home, he made cookies and anything I needed for comfort. He helped me get undressed and even use the bathroom. He supported me and I felt so comfortable and loved. Today he came to my house at 7am to make me breakfast and to do my chores. He stayed with me and watched Halloween movies with me. My past abusive relationship would’ve never treated me like this! I’m just very thankful for my boyfriend and I wanted to share it with you guys :)

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ravergravr on 2023-10-04 16:40:09.

Me and my boyfriend have talked about filming videos before but we didnt agree on doing it just yet, he recorded a short video about 1.5 months ago just a few days before we officially got together. He said he deleted the video from his snap right after but it was saved in his gallery aswell which is how i found it. I dont know what to do. I know he feels bad about it because he sobbed for hours. One part of me doesn't really mind but the other part of me feels like if hes able to hide something like this then what else is he hiding. I'm really confused and i don't know how i feel or what to do. Any advice?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Loose_Bicycle_1157 on 2023-10-04 19:46:13.

I have an adopted daughter that i fostered first and then adopted, i am a single woman and a (male) teacher told me she needed a man in her life, a parental figure to help her figure something a mother couldn't help witj. I listed to him the thing the only man in her life left her with until he lost his parental right :

• Ptsd
• mental and physical scar
• An eating disorder
• Internal damage that still has an impact on her life
• Two suicide attempt
• the lose of a mother

He shut his face after.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Buabue1 on 2023-10-04 19:01:30.

Edit: if you didn’t see the original post I made yesterday, go look for it and read it first. This is part 2.

The replies y'all were sharing on the original thread made me laugh—and I'm in a storytelling mood—so I wanted to share what happened next.

Basically, I died inside and went and bought him a bottle of soap for the bathroom. I was really into him and (shamefully) this didn't send me running (just yet). (Spoiler: I later discovered MANY other red flags, but should have left when I found this first one. Hindsight).

I had this strong urge to sanitize everything in his apartment after that, and I kept bugging him with, "Did you wash your hands?" after he used the bathroom which got on his nerves.

Things came to a head a little later when we were just hanging out one day. He disappeared into the bathroom for a while, and when he returned I asked him if he’d washed his hands.

He said yes, I said okay.

He then said: "Do you believe me? Want to smell the soap?"

I said": "No, it's fine :) I believe you."

He then jumped on top of me while I was laying on the couch and forcefully shoved his hands in my face, making me smell the scent of soap on his hands.

I was very unamused by this and told him to stop and get off of me.

The rest of the afternoon the mood between us was pretty blah. We decided to go for a drive around his neighborhood, and he let loose, yelling at me in the car, saying that I was a bitch and didn't respect him and that I better start doing so.

Should have broken up with him the moment I first discovered he didn't own a bottle of hand soap. Ya live and ya learn.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Low_Big5544 on 2023-10-04 16:51:46.

He has had a vasectomy so there is no practical need to use condoms. He hates them and constantly complained when we used them; things got to a point where he said he would rather have less frequent sex if it means he doesn't have to wear one. That has ended up being pretty much no sex the last couple of years (and the few encounters we've had certainly haven't helped with the trauma), and he has been expressing a lot recently how much he's struggling with that which is totally understandable. But when I asked if we could go back to using condoms to make it easier for me to handle emotionally he hit the roof and said it was unreasonable of me to even suggest it knowing how much he hates them.

Idk I'm just so confused, the whole situation feels like there's some sort of double standard happening but I can't quite grasp or articulate what it is