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It was my birthday a few days ago and all I can think about is how I'm still a virgin (lemmynsfw.com)

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I feel like past a certain age everyone doesn't like growing older. For me I have that same feeling plus the added pressure that every year I go from being an X year old virgin to an X+1 one year old virgin. I'm about to finish collage and go into the work field which given my internship I can already tell I won't have much of a chance at meeting new people even less girls.

Everytime I find someone and start getting along with them really well. I think to my self this will finally be the year which I stop being a virgin. But it just has not worked out. Of course I dont go into a relationship with the sole goal of losing my V-card but it is something that crosses my mind.

I am 24 year old and I am still a virgin.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Hmmh, yeah that further narrows down the list of potential candidates. I can't give any good recommendation. To give some insight: Most people say their first time wasn't good sex at all. It's unfamiliar, you don't know what to do, you're stressed out and it doesn't feel good etc. It's certainly exciting and something to remember. But usually not enjoyable. And keep in mind losing virginity is a one-time thing. You can enjoy the look or habits or jokes of someone each day they're around. The virginity thing is something you do one day and then it has lost it's meaning in a way. Idk. Make of this what you will. I can sympathize with someone saying they don't want to experience their first time with some random person but with someone special. I think that's valid. The other way around is a bit more tricky. You can't really expect that from someone. You can try. At the same time be aware of your high standards and expectations. That doesn't mean you have to lower your standards. But you could squander a chance at meeting your potential partner if you're not open to it. And these things happen if you're focused on small details and that makes you unable to look at the whole picture of who someone is.

And the last thing, we all can't look into the future. Statistically, your first partner won't end up being your spouse. It's a nice romantic dream to marry your first love. But more something from a movie. So if you're going for that, that could also turn out to be a fruitless endeavor. In any case, you'll know in hindsight. But I really don't know how much effort to put into making a fist relationship perfect. Maybe it's a good idea to strive for it, but not be entirely crestfallen if it turns out differently.