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[–] [email protected] 152 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

YOU KNOW WHO I WORRY ABOUT COMING INTO WOMEN'S BATHROOMS, CONSERVATIVES?

CIS MEN.

I HAVE LITERALLY NEVER HAD A TRANS WOMAN MAKE ME FEEL UNSAFE IN THERE. BUT I HAVE HAD CIS MEN FOLLOW ME IN AND ATTEMPT ASSAULT.

MEN DON'T NEED TO GO THROUGH THE CONVOLUTED STEPS OF TRANSITIONING TO GAIN ACCESS TO WOMEN'S BATHROOMS, YOU FUCKING IDIOTS

MAYBE ADDRESS THAT FIRST? NO???

HOLY FUCKING SHIT

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

They believe that anyone can claim they're a woman now and that's it. And once it's done they can just walk into women's bathrooms. They're just telling on themselves, projecting on trans people. They're just sex obsessed freaks, all of them.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I know. I was raised in a fundie church. I did not escape unscathed. They're fucked up perverts.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

I grew up in a fundie church as well. No one escapes unscathed. Glad you got out. I hope you're able to heal. Fuck Bill Gothard!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

We just had a Nazi change her legal status to woman probably to fuck with the system and try to get into a women's prison. Now she will probably be send to a male prison and referred to as a woman.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I've said that if I was wealthy, I would force legislation that was trans friendly by (as a cis woman) going into women's bathrooms in Congress, standing on toilets, and staring at women.

Women's bathrooms don't have urinals! There's no reason for anyone to be afraid of anyone seeing anything in there, unless they stand on toilets, and Im fully of the opinion that the gender of the person doing that has nothing to do with how creepy it is!!

Maybe if you're actually worried, all bathrooms should be, I dunno, gender neutral with full doors that close all the way? For maximum safety?

And I believe nothing can get that point across quite like demonstrating that I, as an almost middle aged, fat woman who looks like I could safely run for a Rwpublican seat, standing on toilets and staring at people.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Maybe if you're actually worried, all bathrooms should be, I dunno, gender neutral with full doors that close all the way? For maximum safety?

They made a bathroom at my university that’s gender neutral with stalls that are fully ceiling to floor with no gaps in the door.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

And this is how it should be everywhere!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Kansas City airport also has this!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

as an almost middle aged, fat woman who looks like I could safely run for a Rwpublican seat, standing on toilets

I’m kind of worried about your safety now, since public restrooms don’t generally have toilet lids. Perhaps bring a stool to safely appear to be standing on the toilet.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

wait ... so if I just walk through the door I'm suddenly in the women's bathroom? no force field?