egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics
!egg_irl
!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.
General Rules:
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No bigotry.
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No spam, bots, or vote farming.
Rules on Content:
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No reposts.
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No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.
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No visible names or usernames.
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Do not post or link to pornography.
Rules on Post Titles and Tags:
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Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".
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Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc]
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem]
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary]
[CW: Transphobia]
[CW: Violence]
[CW: Weapons/Firearms]
[CW: Disturbing Imagery]
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You may optionally include other tags, such as:
[Transmasc Meme]
[Transfem Meme]
[Nonbinary Meme]
[Gender-Nonspecific Meme]
Rules on Post Text:
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If possible, include an image description for accessibility.
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Add sources for art.
Rules on Comments
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If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.
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You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways.
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No Ewwphoria posts. Posts which contain misogyny, misandry, transmisogyny, transmisandry, or enbyphobia for the purpose of expressing euphoria are not allowed here. At best they bring anger to others, and at worst they may trigger people's dysphoria. People who create such posts will have them removed and may be banned at moderator discretion.
Recommendations:
We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.
Sibling Meme Communities
- !traa (or search for https://lemmy.ca/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Sibling Non-Meme Communities
- !transgender (or search for https://lemmy.ml/c/transgender in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !trans (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/trans in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !ftm (and transmasc) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/ftm in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !mtf (and transfem) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/mtf in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://lemmy.one/c/nonbinary in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://beehaw.org/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Community Resources:
- The Trevor Project / 1-866-488-7386 — A US-based crisis prevention and intervention hotline and community
- TransLifeLine / 1-877-565-8860 — A US-based trans peer support hotline
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible — An in-depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria
- Trans Resources — A directory of resources for trans, non-binary, and gender-non-conforming people
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory — A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers
- Trans Resistance Network — A US-based mutual-aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project — Advice about insurance claims for trans healthcare procedures
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library — A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document
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Your comment was removed because it seemed to come across as encouraging egging.
No, it does not. For starters this is a common assumption that people make which is that they wish they had been told earlier without fully understanding how they would react. I can almost guarantee that a reaction like "UwU are you Suuuuuure? That's not very cis of you 🥚🏳️⚧️ " Would not have been as helpful then as it feels like it would've been now. But even if you think it would be, that doesn't mean it isn't harmful to others. No one has a easy way of knowing that and frankly I don't think it's worth it to find out hard way. Many people say it's "no big deal" to be wrongfully called an egg, but that's the same as saying "sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you". This was addressed in the post. Your situation is an anecdote and doesn't actually disprove the harm egging has caused and continues to cause, just because you feel you're an exception.
Now if you're talking about calm and rational discussion to help someone discover themselves, that's not considered egging. And it is encouraged. The egg prime directive does encourage affirming and therapeutic interventions. The only thing it discourages is defying another person's gender identification.
You are allowed to share your experiences, what is not allowed is direct or indirect encouagement or apologia of egging. Your comment seemed vague enough that it could've been egging apologia, but equally could've been not so I erred on the side of caution, I was fully prepared to appeal and restore the decision but since you decided to attack the Egg Prime Directive, and attempt to unilaterally disprove it using your own personal anecdotes, you've made your intentions clear, this decision stands.
I don’t really appreciate you publishing part of a message I sent you in private. Also, you’re misrepresenting my arguments and intentions. I shared my experience because your post implies that people like me don’t exist or matter. I never denied the harm it can cause if someone acts like they know more about someone’s identity than they do. Which is ironic because in your comment you’re implying you know more about my trans journey than I do.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, just to be clear we're not trying to directly or implicitly claim that people like you do not exist. This post simply states that everyone here regardless of their personal opinion about being personally called an egg, is expected and required to treat everyone else with the same level of respect and not do it to others.
Uh... "It disproves the main assumption of the directive, that it’s always harmful to tell someone they might be trans." yeah what do you call this then. Sure seems like trying to deny the merit of the egg prime directive to me, based on personal anecdote no less.
Just for clarification when I said that it isn't likely your past self would find egging, I am not trying to say or imply that I know you or your journey better than you do. I have an understanding that most people tend to react differently than they think they would by virtue of lacking the knowledge and memories then that they have now. I apologize if I came off as presuming your identity.
Nevertheless, your message does carry a certain amount of adversarial tones, which do not inspire confidence that you will follow this rule, as you spent as much time as you could trying to debate the merit of it. The fact is that this rule isn't up for debate, the Egg Prime Directive isn't a suggestion or a guideline It very much carries the same weight and force here as law. Just like transmedicalism and transmisogyny are unacceptable, egging is too. In all honesty I have shown a lot of leeway with you I haven't with others. If someone came apologizing for transmedicalism in a similar way, they would've been banned yesterday. Though I guess the difference is that there is a strong precedent for banning people for transmed apologia, but much less when it comes to banning people for egging apologia.