As a note because I forgot to include it in the main article. Some people may say they are egging others as a "joke" or "harmless teasing". While they may have that intention, it unfortunately doesn't often come off that way for the person receiving it. If anything it may come off as a practical joke, or a joke at their expense. Something that isn't funny to them, and that they aren't going to laugh at. Please don't egg other people as a joke, we don't find it funny, they don't find it funny. Only you find the joke funny, an at their expense no less. That behavior has a name, its Bullying.
egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics
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!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
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Egging is to pick the fruit before it is ripe
Thank you for this! Questioning and considering one's gender is such a valuable thing for both trans and cis people, I'd like to say that anyone in this process of self-discovery is a hatching egg. And just like a hatching egg, the best thing you can do is to give it a supportive environment and plenty of time.
An egg being someone who is questioning (as opposed to someone who is trans and in denial/doesn't know) is the definition I first learned and is the one I like the most. Just turns egg into a less problematic and more useful term imo
Love the way you worded this. I'm going to implement this on transfem as well.
Awesome, that's a great idea. We need much more awareness of the egg prime directive and why it matters in the community.
I really appreciate this post. I'm sure it will help a lot of people get a better understanding of what an egg is and what is and isn't appropriate.
As a transfem tomboy I fully support this. I've already had my fair share of people arguing that I'm not really a trans girl because I like masculine things, because I still have a mustache, because I don't try to have a super fem voice. People assuming someone is or isn't a particular gender based on how they present is shitty and will always be shitty. Fuck people who do that. I'm glad these people aren't welcome in our communities.
Clarifying question: Do the rules apply to the egging of fictional characters? On the one hand, there is no "truth" to their identity and speculating about their internal feelings is part of engaging with fiction, but on the other hand it may model bad behavior for engaging with real people.
In many circumstances the answer is yes. They may not be real people but it does model bad behavior, and it may also make real people feel bad by invalidating their journeys if they relate to these characters or discovered themselves based on who these characters are. It's very similar to the idea of misgendering fictional characters actually.
Of course with fictional characters people may have their own headcanons, but they must remember they are headcanons and not force themselves onto others. If you relate to Felix argyle and are trans and see him as a trans girl in your headcanon that is fine, but don't go around telling other people Felix is trans and that they're wrong for saying otherwise.
So in short, egging of fictional characters, especially ones who explicitly say they are boys isn't acceptable, and sets a horrible example in the community. People who don't know better in these cases are more likely to be let off with a warning or temp ban than permanent exile, as it ultimately doesn't hurt others. It's still not good though.