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First, a little context.

So this might have nothing to do with anything, but being ignorant about it, I'd like to at least make an attempt to figure out.

I don't actually know very many gay people in person.

I have this one gay friend that lived near my childhood house. He's like 10 years younger than me, he's really more of my younger sibling's friend than mine, but he's often around when I see them, and we've had a bunch of weed sessions together. Anyway, I have him on snap because of this.

On to the main question.

He sends a lot of selfies to his story that have him with his tongue just hanging out as far as it goes. Given his flamboyance, I assume this means something gay, but I'm not sure.

I feel like on Lemmy this goes without saying, but I'm totally supportive of that (in stark contrast to how I grew up), but this is such an odd quirk that I've never even heard mentioned in any other circumstance.

I don't necessarily think it's a cutesy promiscuous thing, he's had a boyfriend for a couple years now.

Is this face gesture a thing? Or maybe it's just a him thing...?

Somebody here let me know.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Lmao no, sticking your tongue out isn't a "gay" thing. I guess he's trying to be cute, so sorta feminine and stereotypical but it's not really something I'd consider part of gay culture. (I'm bi, my best friend is gay and I've hung out with a lot of gay men.)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for the input.

I'm late to learning a lot about this, I'm catching up on like 30 years of being whatever the opposite of woke is. Slept? I dunno.

Once someone I was close to came out I've been trying to learn a lot about LGBT stuff. I have him to learn a lot of it but he hasn't really heard of this and I've been wondering about it on the back burner. Got another story post just before I posted this, which reminded me to ask a broader audience than one dude.

I grew up(still in actually) a very red town so once I figured out LGBT people weren't mentally deranged and broke out of the religious bubble I was in (about 9 years ago for the religious breakout coming up on like 12 for figuring gay doesn't mean "going to hell".

It's been eye opening. Me and the guy I mentioned earlier that came out have been having movie day once a week, and I've seen a lot of gay and trans movies (recent examples are the birdcage and the Patrick Swayze drag movie that I forgot the name of)now and I just love the people in the rainbow so much.

I'm not switching teams, (sorry guys, I still want the ladies) but I don't feel gross about the entire concept anymore.

I said and thought a lot of stuff then that I come about now and I'm trying to be better now. If I was missing some context and learned about it here I woulda brought it up just to see if he was proud of the effort. But no dice for me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

It's nice to hear that people who were previously either against LGBTQ people or on the fence can actually change their minds and come to accept others. :3