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How would you deal with right wing parents? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For some context, we are first generation immigrants. My parents are Russian, my mother and her husband have been living here for 20 years (even got rid of Russian citizenship couple years ago), my biological father is still living in Russia.

It's damn exhausting to discuss political topics with them, especially my father. He keeps telling me how great it is to live in Russia, how their economy is doing great and how he's proud that they are defending their "brothers" in Donezk and Luhansk from the evil bandera regime in Ukraine.

My mom voted far right in the past election. She doesn't believe she voted for nazis, but the party's views on economics, climate policy and immigration seem to align with hers. She believes wind farms are harmful for the environment. What the actual fuck.

Whenever I try to argue with them, they tell me that I've been brainwashed by "Western propaganda".

I'm at a loss. I love my parents and I know that nobody's immune to propaganda, but it's heartbreaking to see them holding these toxic beliefs. How would you deal with parents like these? Should I just declare to never talk about politics with them again since it's pointless?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I wouldn't.

I'd approach it from a personal level, as in, "you're disgusting for doing this, you're disgusting for pretending any of this bullshit is defensible. This is beyond the pale. I'll talk to you again if you stop it with the crap, not before. I'm ashamed to come from people who would do this."

I don't know if it's a good idea to try and talk actual policy points with them. You think they reasoned their way there? This isn't politics, it's assholish indecency. Treat it like the thing it is.

Debating people who's entire thing is "don't be serious but make the others be" is dumb. Clown on em, tell them you can visit when they stop being transparently awful. Make it their job to patch things up, and don't use kid gloves. Don't allow the idea that they have a point into the conversation. That only applies to people who have points. Nazi shit gets you put in time out instead.

Don't take up the mantle of always having to put out the fire they keep lighting in the bridge between you. They'll burn it down and try to blame you for it, mark my words.