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I can talk on the phone - if left with no other choice. And then I need to lie down because it's exhausting as fuck.
Good lord. You go to therapy for that? That is beyond not normal.
It comes up every once in a while in therapy.
In case you're interested: The problem for me is that I can't see the other person's face so I have trouble judging their reactions. Are they mad at me, are they confused by what I said, are they joking around? When in doubt, I tend to default to the worst possibility so I'm constantly on the defense. That's what's exhausting about it. It's a little easier with friends and family because I can of course interpret their voices more easily but I still don't enjoy it. I know it's not "normal" but it's also not something that's going to change anytime soon.
Sucks you're affected badly by this. I think those of us that grew up before texting and IM don't have this problem so badly. It doesn't bother me and I've got serious anxiety issues. I can talk on the phone with bosses, whatever, but sending me a text that says "We need to talk" with no follow-up is such a dick move.
Nothing to do with texting, I'm old. 🤷
Social anxiety is not at all uncommon. Therapy would only really be beneficial if the anxiety was causing problems in a person's life. It could be that the person you replied to may need to lie down after a phone call, and is then fully functional afterward. Unless they're bothered by this process or it somehow impedes upon their day-to-day life, it otherwise would seem like they already have their recovery mechanisms figured out and are doing well for themself. They're playing the hand they were dealt, and they're still in the game.