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You know, before work and everything starts again... sometimes I feel like I'm obsessed with min-maxing my weekend because of the limited time I have. So I usually feel quite guilty if I end up slacking too much. And I tend to be quite aware of how much time I have left. Anyone else that has this issue?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

this is really a big part of it. folks who have "pre-monday" dread are dreading something and I feel like we all owe it to ourselves to find a way to work that we don't dread.

Ikigai, the Japanese philosophy, sums up a good way to try to think about this.

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OP if you're reading this, I feel you, I've been thinking about beginnings/endings/time remaining since I was a little kid and its a fuckin curse, frankly.

As a few people have mentioned, mindfullness is a good thing to learn a bit about and to try to "do" basically every day if you can remember.

You dont need to sit listening to a person who's doing the "spiritually tuned in reassuring relaxing voice" that mindfulness people make the mistake of doing.

If you stop, put your feet firmly on the ground and feel the floor under your feet (rock your weight up to your toes and back to your heels and really feel the solid quality of the ground for just a sec) thats called 'grounding' typically, then take one slow (5 secs or so in and another 5 out) diaphagramatic breath (breathe down and into your belly, not the chest, your belly button should go out instead of your breastbone) and thats it. you'll now remember whatever youre looking at the next day instead of just going through the motions of your weekend free time.

things end and death is coming for all of us, but not now, and thats worth checking in to

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I don't really hate my job to be honest. It's just that, no matter what I'd do for pay, it will never be anything I really want to do. I'd rather spend my spare time pursuing whatever studies, hobbies, exercise or random leisure I really want to do. Capitalizing on your interests doesn't lead to anything good, at least for me. People always say, "try to find your dream job!" but for some people, there will never be. Because capitalism and 40 hour work weeks are unnatural in itself. But yes, mindfulness and meditation is key, still.