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What would/do you wear to a funeral? (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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I just lost a family member (not a close one, but I did love him). Not sure yet when the funeral will be, but I'll need to plan ahead, and I'm not sure where to start. When my boyfriend died (8 years ago) we made copies of his favorite tshirt and wore those. I'm guessing this will be a slightly dresser function.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Typical attire is dark clothes, little to no patterned fabric, suit or jacket if you have one, dress, slacks, dress shirt, cardigan if you need extra layers. Navy blue, charcoal grey, brown, black, colors like that. Nothing "loud". Subdued jewelry. You're not there to draw attention to yourself. You're there to comfort the grieving, process your own grief, and remember good things about the departed.

That said, I have been to some funerals where the only clothes some ppl had were jeans and a shirt. Their demeanor was appropriate and respectful, and no one judged them.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

If it's to be a celebration of life not in a church or funeral home, somber dress is less of a norm. I wore my mom's favorite color (purple).

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

Thank you. I'm not sure yet which kind of service it will be. I hope it's the latter because my entire wardrobe is built on patterns and loudness.