this post was submitted on 30 May 2025
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The best help you can give someone in distress is hearing them, whilst you redirect them to a place that can help with empathy and compassion.
Any form of automated message comes across as the exact opposite of empathy and compassion.
In addition, speaking as the admin of a trans and queer community, I don't have any special tools or abilities to help people. Sending the report to me doesn't let me help them, because they're almost certainly not in my country, and I don't have any special access that enables me to contact them or reach out to them. The tool I do have, is the instance itself that we host, that allows people to connect with their community and their peers, that allows them to struggle, and that shuts down anyone who would try and add to the hurt of someone on the edge.
Which is to say, I don't think a reddit style feature has a place here. It will let people think they're helping, without actually doing so, as well as providing a new vector for abuse (though that would be less of an issue than on reddit). In theory, an automated list of resources that could be called on could be useful, but again, if someone is struggling, they need to feel heard, and automated replies can come across as dispassionate and uncaring.