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Average height where I am in the UK is 5'9" for men (175cm). I'm not dating in Asia so the global averages aren't really relevant.
Don't feel insecure though, it's just each to their own, and I hope you find someone awesome who loves you and is a good fit! (if you haven't already of course!)
I'm quite lucky because I found a girlfriend who is the same height as me. We're a really good fit together physically and much more importantly we're absolute soulmates, and in the end that's what matters.
And for what it's worth, before I met my gf when I was younger, I still went on a date with a trans bi dude who was like 5'3" or 5'6" or something because I found him super interesting. Didn't work out, and it was actually me getting turned down, so there's that, I didn't discard him as a choice just because of his height nor even the potential physical incompatibilities.
I also once set up a date with a self-proclaimed "incel" Chinese immigrant who was around the 150-160cm mark, but he got paranoid and thought it was a scam because I listed the height req on my profile, and I was really busy and not responding much because I was trying to nail down an internship at the same time ๐คฃ
One time , I went on a date with a cishet dude who said he was 6'0", so I took the occasion to wear my heels, turns out dude lied and just looked like my son the entire time, he also had a bit of a babyface, and it didn't help he was a software engineer, and I was unemployed, but I talked circles around him in terms of computer stuff when I started infodumping about hackintoshing old vaio laptops over dinner.
Never spoke to him after that and neither did he to me lol, awkward all around lmao
5'9" is also not much bigger than 5'7', so it still isn't "quite short" in comparison.
Why would I feel insecure?
Not you specifically necessarily, but my comment got quite downvoted so I figured I'd include that as a disclaimer just in case
Why do you believe that anyone down voting you is insecure? Personally I down voted you because you are factually incorrect, and I would assume that is why others are doing so.
How am I factually incorrect? I didn't even state any facts. A statement like 5'7" is quite short is fairly subjective by its nature because short/tall are qualitative descriptors that it's hard to quantify even with a frame of reference and averages agreed upon.
Why should I answer your question if you refuse to answer mine?
I did answer yours. I said I assumed someone must be feeling insecure if they downvoted my very sugarcoaty post, if that's not the case then I'm wrong and that's that, but at least one dude definitely got it and said he "appreciates the honesty".
I asked "Why do you believe that anyone down voting you is insecure?". Still waiting.
Because men tend to be insecure about their height. It's not at all unusual or uncommon. The only direct reply was explicitly stating they appreciated.my honesty, which makes it seem like I've been overly "honest", in that I wouldn't date a man below a certain height. Your "factual" rebuttal is a matter of semantics.
Your personal investment in continuing to respond further convinces me not only was I right to assume, but that it is you specifically who is insecure. G'day.
It is interesting to me that you assume I am offended by your statement, when in reality I am just pointing out that you are factually wrong. If the Global average, comprised of over 8.2 billion people, is 5'7.5" then 5'7" is not "short". One person "appreciating your honesty" doesn't change the fact that you are objectively wrong.
You are also responding so should I assume that I am correct in thinking that you are simply an ignoramus who refuses to accept they are wrong? Considering I have 0 reason to be insecure about my height, and you have nothing but an average guy thanking you to support your very subjective opinion on the matter, I think my assumption may be correct and don't feel the need to respond further.