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Both.
So, two things can be true?
What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt".
You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on.
Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think?
Way to be a cunt, cunt.
Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to.
I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see.
Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser.
I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too?
And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it.
Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well.
Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this.
If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well.