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its ok to fap
Considering the rest of their lifestyle, there's very little chance that they were masturbating a sensible amount. A period of abstinence is a great way to normalize their masturbation habits.
You can do it too much. Had an ex fuck up his nerve endings with deathgrip bad enough he couldn't get off in me. Nobody's had trouble before or after so.
¯ \_(ツ)_/¯
but the solution is just do it less and grip less hard.
I also find that while we haven't got to needing to schedule sex yet, hubs and I do have to coordinate when we masturbate to get the best odds of mutual orgasm. His sweet spot seems to be 24-36h. Mine is technically as long as possible but if I try to wait more than a week I start having really surreal wet dreams about lizard people and people I haven't met in over a decade and it resets my refractory period to sometime next millennia.
That's like saying it's okay to eat to people who overeat on the daily
But nobody suggests you go as long as you can without eating
how what
The problem isn't masturbating.
Everything is a problem if you’re doing it compulsively or mask something else.
Masturbating can surprisingly help with restless leg syndrome but doing it in work might be a problem.
So you understand that the problem isn't doing the thing, it's something else, and doing the thing is only bad because of that context. Then you ought to understand that treating the context is the solution, not insisting the person just not do the thing.
I do understand that, perhaps more acutely than most as I’ve had countless destructive “hobbies” (my god hobby is the softest word I could find here) that I used to mask the underlying issue. Heck I’m still not sure I know the underlying cause but I have translated those destructive things with positive ones but the goal is the same. This is all to say I’m well versed in addiction, compulsions, and poor mental health.
With that in mind I would say that sometimes you have to stop the thing you’re doing, let’s say masturbating here, so you can get your body back to baseline before you can even begin to work with a therapist or do some introspection.
I’m not saying we should demonise masturbation, just accept that for some people they may need to stop doing that for a period whilst they then fix the other shit they got going on.
I’m in my forties and really never been happy and had a shit childhood that is still the cause of the way my mind bullies me to this very day. I’ve tried therapy before but when you’re in the midst of masking all your shit with other shit you really can’t make any progress in my experience. What I’ve done now is spend several years working on myself and replacing negative addictions with positive ones. That afforded me the will power to begin to remove the substances and other coping strategies. Now I actually feel I’m in a place where I might benefit from some EMDR or trauma therapy.
If you think this is what "nofap" is about, you don't understand the issue. Nofap isn't a step toward therapy, nor does it avoid demonizing masturbation. It's manosphere propaganda aimed at lonely, frustrated men to manipulate them through shame and further deprivation. People who have a genuine problem with self control where masturbation is concerned are just catching strays in this war where nofap ideology is a weapon.
I had no idea that nofap was what you just described. I saw the green text as the person taking all those positives steps to get back to living life and not some Andrew Tate thing.
I apologise for my misunderstanding and wading into this discussion, as my concern is for the people who are doing things compulsively not manosphere stuff.
It's 4chan. Of course it's a manospheric conformist post. If they actually did all that shit to improve their lives they'd also walk the fuck away from 4chan, not go brag about it to them.
Guess I don’t know much about 4chan other than seeing green texts and thinking it’s a bunch of oddballs trying to solve the odd murder.
Didn’t know it was manosphere and don’t know it’s political leaning.
You're probably better off not knowing, but if you've ever heard of Pizzagate or QAnon, 4chan is where those delights came from.
I get what you’re saying, but would you adopt the same stance for example for gambling or drinking alcohol? They’re not necessarily bad per se, it’s the compulsion and the trigger points it evokes for some people where I think it’s completely fine to just accept that for them not doing it at all - even if for a time - might be the correct move.
Comparing a natural behavior to dependency on addictive chemicals is a bit silly. I'm not sure you're taking this seriously. And before you come back with "masturbation releases chemicals we can form a dependency on", literally SO many other mundane things have the same effect. Conservatives and fascists always care about this one in particular though, and that's the real reason we're talking about it.
But that’s exactly what I am saying, there’s a wide variety of actions that - on their own - aren’t really harmful if done in moderation. Sure gambling and drinking are more extreme examples, but you yourself agree that these actions ‘release chemicals we can form a dependency on’. So does gambling, so does overeating, so does masturbation. If it’s an issue for the person and they’re not doing it for a while then I also don’t see the use in singling this out in the list of things here. If it helps the person get motivated/be proud and engage positive feedback loops to not do it, why single masturbation out as useless?
Of course, ‘never fapping’ and automagically being a good person is an absurd manosphere grift to push. But if they were following a specific diet which in itself also doesn’t turn your life around but gets the ball rolling would you have the same stance? If it’s part of a process of change for a person I just don’t see the sense in such strong antipathy for this single case, I suppose.
In other words, of the list of things here - cold showers, room tidying, brushing teeth, not eating like crap - it’s the masturbation this thread singles out and tells the person: no that thing, you should definitely continue doing that. Just seems unproductive to me.
Who brought that idea in? You just made that up.
What we're really talking about is the equivalent of following fad diets because a fascist with an agenda is trying to bend vulnerable people to a cause they don't understand, using psychological knowledge and conditioning techniques. These people are not consulting licensed professionals, they're not talking to psychiatrists or therapists, they're listening to Joe Rogen podcasts and Facebook propaganda.
So while all these other things you talk about might have some merit to them, that's not what we're really talking about, nor what the problem actually is. The problem is these men live in a society that simultaneously tells them their desires are bad, show unrealistic body images and other impossible standards, tells them they need to work on themselves in superficial ways, and all while forcing them to live as wage slaves while the ultra-rich laugh at the impossible frustration they're putting people through.
Figure it out.
Oh, that’s what I understood from the thread starting with:
But I agree with your points, in general.
I guess where I am talking past you (or ‘listening’ past you, as it were) is that my argument is focused on this specific instance of someone doing something and I understood people to react with discouragement. You’re embedding the discussion into a wider societal angle. It still seems somewhat strange to bring it up in this instance as the original post also doesn’t mention any of the points you touch on and the ideas thus seem similarly ‘made up’ and brought in, for this case, to me.
But I definitely don’t have an argument with the points themselves, they are well made.