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What's the best advice you've been given for your relationship with your spouse/partner? (self.listening)
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My father-in-law told us both when we were married: "Remember that sometimes you will be a friend to one another, and other times you will be a parent. Everyone needs to cry like a child sometimes."

Do you have any advice that you've been given that helped you be a better partner?

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[–] avidamoeba 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My partner and I have independently arrived at this conclusion. It's serving us wonders.

Some off the top of my head:

  • People can and do change and it's totally valid to try to as well as help buff out rough edges.
  • Establish a logical framework to communicate. Learn some formal critical reasoning if needed. Learn fallacies, etc.
  • Discuss anything and everything, don't let things fester. There often are easy solutions before things have snowballed.
  • Encourage introspection.
  • Don't consider feelings as something immutable and sacred. Both positive and negative. One can foster or reduce either.