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Do you ever feel like you're chained down by your past - things you can't let go of, things you wish you could still do? (kbin.social)

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And like there's this person that you were, and this person that you are going to be, and the person you are now doesn't know how much you need to get rid of past you to make room for future you. And you feel overwhelmed in this decision and become paralyzed, not actually moving forward with the conscious decisions of what to let go, and things start to fall away but you don't know if those are the right things.

I've just feeling like that for a while. I know there are things I need to let go of, but when I try to do it, it causes me great anxiety and I stop. I'm just wondering if anyone else ever feels the same.

Thanks for listening.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Yup. It's part of growing older. All the things we couldn't do then, all the stuff we put off, and never do. The only way to break the cycle is to consciously stop yourself from planning for the next day. Expect that each day of drudgery and tedium is your last day on Earth and be satisfied with that. Don't plan on things. It's a hard thing to do, and breaking the cycle of "tomorrow" is a hard one. There's a lot that I'm trapped by - some related to my circumstances and due to my choices and actions.

I've learned to accept that this is the best that life will ever be. This, and no farther. That's the only way to acknowledge the chains and not regret their formation.