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I'm experiencing indecision (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 8 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Our (my partner and i) lease is up in a month and we are planning on moving to a town 30 minutes north of us. we're in a small college town surrounded by cornfields currently, and would be moving to a more suburban area. my main reasons for moving are that I've been in this town for about 5 years and honestly its got some of the blandest selection of shops, restaurants, activities, etc. its not totally devoid of cool people and small businesses, but a majority of its commerce is through chains. in the new town, there would be local grocers to shop at, a wider variety of cultural foods, and more... extracurriculars (i like to take dance, art, etc. classes). however, the apartment we have a deposit down for is kinda shit. we cant really afford anything better at this size, though. we'll also lose out on being in a walkable area. also, my partner would have to commute to school ~3x a week for classes and i feel kinda bad abt dragging him away from being able to walk to campus, but something in me feels ready for a change. though as the title says, im facing indecision. thoughts?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

I'm in the same boat. My partner and I are extremely excited for a new start and can't wait to get away from some things here, but the apartment we have lined up is fairly smaller than what we have now.

To top it off, there's another apartment with a beautiful screen in porch on the same floor, but it's a tiny efficiency apartment. The worst part is that that tenant will have to walk through our part of the porch to get to the stairs. I've rented long enough to know that you don't always get great neighbors, so not looking forward to that.

My new landlord is my brother in law and he wanted to combine the apartments and just charge us a bit more, but my sister didn't want to lose the money of having two apartments up there. I understand that, but it's such a nice one bedroom apartment and the two bedroom feels like a bunch of tiny boxes nailed together.

The area is extremely rural and my gf will have to commute a bit longer to get to her transferred job, but we think it's well worth it despite all that. I'd say give it a try and see what you think. If it doesn't work great, view your other options from there. It sounds like you're both looking for a change either way.