this post was submitted on 28 Dec 2023
442 points (86.5% liked)

Asklemmy

49448 readers
439 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy πŸ”

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_[email protected]~

founded 6 years ago
MODERATORS
 

I'm really worried about the state of the US despite being a white male who was I'll coast right through it. I'll also accept "I don't" and "very poorly" as answers

(page 3) 50 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Can't change it, don't care about it.

You are tuning in to the Tragedy of the Week Show. Next week they'll have another to show you.

load more comments (1 replies)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

Going fishing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

I focus on the areas I can impact. So far that's going OK. As for the state of the world I tell myself that it's probably not as crazy as the media makes it out to be and most of the time that's true. I'm not American so it makes it easier to dismiss American issues.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

There's tons of evidence that the world is getting better. Life expectancies are the highest they've ever been, disease is the lowest it's ever been, globalization is distributing opportunities for relative prosperity to previously ignored or neglected regions. The only thing that's not getting better right now is climate change but the youth care about that more than ever so it seems like we'll make headway on that once the old guard ends their watch. The youth are aldo much more progressive so with their ascent to power, I expect more power to return to the people and more scrutiny to befall the rich and powerful as it once was.

What sort of critical life and death issues are getting worse in your perspective?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

life is temporary.

im hangin on to the ride until i get thrown off. its my only shot, even if it sucks donkey balls

i guess my answer would be 'dont sweat the small stuff. its all small stuff'

load more comments (1 replies)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

I focus on one thing at a time in my sphere of influence.

[–] corsicanguppy 7 points 2 years ago

the fact that the world isn't getting any better

I think you've beggared (begged) the question.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

That’s a very relative and personal question. Because for me the world is getting better. Not everyone lives in the US, here we graduate university with money saved instead of being in debt

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

Yeah, this is why I've urged so many people to shop around for a country like they do a job. See what country aligns with your values, with your goals, with benefits, etc. and start working to get there. You don't have to stay miserable if you feel like your country is not where you want it to be and you're not the one to help fix it.

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (8 children)

β€œI wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. β€œSo do I,” said Gandalf, β€œand so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”

Worry without action is of no tangible use. If you just worry, ACT!

load more comments (8 replies)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

Got news for you, if you're working class, being white or male will not let you "coast right through" the inevitable boom/bust cycles that will befall the economies. You'll be under the boot like everyone else.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

Stoicism. Is there something that I can do about it?No. Is it under my control to change this? No. Then I move on and do the best I can be a better person and be more empathetic.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

Using the Serenity Prayer as inspiration (though I'm an atheist and not an addict), I try to accept what I cannot change, and change the things I can.

I also try to keep busy with hobbies such as gardening and woodworking.

I suppose I should probably try to get into some type of activism or community type stuff, but I'm not at all an outgoing type of person.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (4 children)

I was sort of in the same boat, although in Canada. We had our own set of different, also serious issues that were not getting any better. I couldn't see any way to do anything about it myself, or even secure myself an OK life in the country.

So, I emigrated. Just like so many generations of my family before me, from their various home countries. I'm not sure if I'm up to the task of making the whole world better, but at least I can move somewhere where I can be productive enough to make things locally better (for myself and perhaps even a few others).

load more comments (4 replies)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

I do what I can to just ignore it. Sure, I don't have a lot and my life is pretty shitty but I always remember that someone somewhere else probably has it significantly worse. Also, while I know it's morbid to think like this, I know that if things get really bad, there will always be a way out.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I try to remind myself that, in the great scheme of things (i.e, evolution) a "step forward, two steps back" is a common thing in this chaotic universe of ours.

Meteors, dinosaurs, civil wars, capitalism issues, pandemics, murder, genocide, climatic changes... it's all accounted for.

Of course, the answer is different if you are suffering directly from these things (apart from the meteors and dinosaurs) I mentioned above, then things suddenly get VERY personal and provoke impulsive reactions from our end.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Not getting better?

What are you basing that belief on?

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

By doing things that make me happy.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

We are now in the "rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic" stage of humanity. So, roughly around step 5 to 6.

But to answer your question at the moment, nihilism. The sad reality is we’re an animal that thinks itself as the divinely chosen species on the planet, thus absolving us from any sense of responsibility for destroying others and setting it on fire.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

By taking what limited steps I can, and by not criticizing others if I don’t think their efforts are thorough, effective, or sincere enough (nobody likes a smug, judgmental, pedantic asshole). By recognizing that people cope in their own ways, and keeping an open mind. By generally trying to be considerate of others.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

The only things worth worrying about are the things that you can control. Don’t worry about who wins the election, just worry about your vote. Don’t worry about what you don’t have, take joy in the things you do have.

Find your village, whether that’s the community of your favorite hobby, a group of local friends, or your family and invest in them and not a politician, celebrity, or athlete.

There is always a reason to find joy.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

Be the change you want to see man

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Have a read of Factfulness. It'll provide, amongst other things, lovely visualizations to demonstrate that's not actually true.

load more comments (1 replies)
load more comments
view more: β€Ή prev next β€Ί